Long Distance Relationship?

Question

My g/f & I are both about to go off to college soon, but the only problem is that we'll be at different schools and mine is about 1 hour and 45 minutes away. We've been together for 3 and a half years now and are really in love. We've always been so close to each other & do just about everything together, and this will be the first time we'll ever be apart for such a long while. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl but I know we have to make it through this tough long distance part first. We talked about visiting each other every weekend we get the chance to and since her school is only 25 minutes away from our home town, I should be able to see both her & my family whenever I come all the way home. She suggested we video chat over MSN messenger so that way we can still see each other and talk. Is there anything else we need to do to make this relationship last through college or does it sound like it will even work out?

Answer 1

Personal experience says it won't. Each of you will change while at college. You will find new interests and have fun apart. I don't know what to advise though.

Answer 2

My high school boyfriend and I went to colleges 300 miles apart. We lasted two years, but it ended and ended badly. My best friend at the time did the same and that relationship didn't last 3 weeks. A college buddy of mine and his girlfriend were an hour apart and lasted a year before she dumped him. People change A LOT when they go to college. I hate to say it, but I have never heard of a couple in a situation similar to yours "making it."

But I will tell you what I've told others - this decision is up to you and your girlfriend. If you two want to try to make this work, it sounds like you've made good strides towards keeping communications open. It won't be easy, no matter what you do - you two will be living two very different daily lives.

Good luck!

Answer 3

My cousin's boyfriend came from Ontario, I'm from Alberta, and he came here to work. I was surprised that they would make it work, but they do. They call each other everyday, before each of them go to bed, they call one another and talk. They text each other during the day, seriously, if you both want it to work, it will. If you are worried about her cheating, its easy to tell if you talk to her everyday, you know? It'll cost, keeping in contact through cell phones, but hey, if you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, if you get to see her on weekends, I really don't think that you have too much to worry about. My cousin's boyfriend has travelled back once within the past 6 months almost, and I think that they are closer than ever. They appreciate each other allot more too because they've learned to value the time that they do get to spend with one another, if it works out, it'll probably strengthen the relationship. If its meant to be, it'll be

Answer 4

It can work. If your both willing to work hard at it. If it's meant to be than you'll find a way, but you are both young and will meet many new single people when in college. Be true to yourself. Concentrate on your future. With today's technology, being away doesn't seem so far away anymore (web cams and all.) Good luck!

Answer 5

Try to stay in touch with each other, by whatever means are available to you.
It sounds like you're off to a good start. However, you are going into situations, where you're both going to be facing new challenges and perhaps some new stressful situations. Each of you also have to be confident in yourselves as individuals; some time on your own is very important for that; that experience will enrich your relationship.
Life can deal some "unfair" blows. It's good to know that you have someone who cares for you; it's also important for each of you to know that you have the strength to stand on your own two feet, as well.