How do I help my fiance loose weigh without affending or discouraging her?

Question

Me and my fiance have been together for the last three years. But recently I have been just getting even more disgusted with her weight. As well she is only tweenty five and she is already starting to see the serious negative side affects taking a toll on her body do to her obesity. She is about three hundred and eighty pounds. How do I help her get to a more healthier weight without pushing her away, affending her or hurting her feelings? Secondly, what is some good dinners I can make that doesn't cost alot of money, I don't have a lot to spend but I need to start eating healthier as well as my fiance. I'm two hundred and tweenty two pounds but I'm six three so my weight is well portioned and would not be considered over weight. My fiance is suffering from obesity. She is only five nine. You can imagine the disasterious road she is going down in terms of her health.

Please don't correct my spelling. I'm not posting this question so I can get a spelling lesson. Answer the question.

Answer 1

You could join a gym together or start an exercise plan of your own, but don't make it out to be just her. (Everyone should get exercise even if they are not obese) Start walking at night with her and cook her nice meals. You can find websites for low fat meals to make at home ( alot of the food is actually good).
Good luck!

Answer 2

at that weight your best bet would be to consult a bariatric specialist. I had gained a lot of weight at one point and ended up seeking help and lost approx. 100 lbs, actually got down below the average. It really helps a lot.
It is a very delicate subject, and has to be approached as such. At some point she has probably even thought of giving up, but its great that you are wanting to help her without being judgemental that makes all the difference.
Somethings that have helped me, food wise is frozen dinners. They have all the calories counted for you so you don't really have to count as hard. Try stouffers they are actually pretty good, and only about 3 dollars a meal.
Supplement wise, you can try Ephedra, It can be dangerous if you don't follow the directions EXACTLY! But ease into that or you will have trouble sleeping but the energy you will gain is astounding.
Then of course make sure you add cardio. Walking is just fine you dont' have to overdo it.
Ease into all of these things, if you loose too much weight too fast you will stop losing and have to work a lot harder to get over that hump. Not to mention its dangerous.
Make sure she is drinking lots of water!!!
If I were you I'd try to set an example, she will follow. That way you aren't pushing her and making her feel alone. I understand what it is like to be in her position, completely. Also, has she been evaluated for depression. At that weight there is a good chance that could be part of the problem, and if so she will continue to gain.
Mostly just support her, make sure she knows you love her, that is extremely important.

Answer 3

You can say, "Hey it's a nice day to walk or go running.'' You can tell her that you want to lose some weight and start and keep with it. She will see your example and want to do the same. Run everyday or every after noon. Start buying healthy food. Do push ups and sit ups. Just start slow. Don't start with too much exercises because then you wear yourself out. Start slow than start doing more when your ready. If she can see that you can do it than she will think she can to. So just start with helping yourself and see if she will hopefully follow your example. If you ever feel like you can't do it just think of how good you will look when you lose weight. It is so worth it. Running helps alot. Sit ups are really good for the stomic it gets rid of fat around the stomic and turns it into muscles. Remember that you can to do it. I don't know what else to tell you.

Answer 4

Gee, I guess you would not be a good person to talk to her. Perhaps you can get a third person to talk to her? If you talked to her about losing weight, she might take it personally and be unhappy.

Or, since you can still afford to lose weight, you could pretend that you wanted to lose more weight and needed her help and asked her to compromise to:
-exercise together with you
-eat healthy with you
- start losing weight with you and have a friendly competition

You can make it fun. Start with researching and reading up about the benefits of being slim and what are some of the possible diseases you might suffer from if you are overweight.

Then create a dream board of how you want to look like when you are slim. Cut out pictures and figures of celebs or models that you like and aspire to be like and paste them on the walls.

Then have a friendly competition to write down reasons why you need to lose weight. The one with the more reasons wins.

Agree upon and stick to a healthy diet. Fruits for breakfast, more vege and less fish and seafood for lunch and dinner and no carbo if possible. No solid foods after eight.

Plan jogging or exercising slots in your week.

Enjoy and good luck!

Answer 5

Maybe the two of you could take a cooking class together where you learn to fix low fat, healthy meals. Eating out is expensive and usually the portions are too large and the food loaded with fat.
Learn to make stir fry, salads, microwave chicken breasts and heat up vegetables.
The other thing would be to spend your time together taking walks. Doesn't cost anything and you can start with short walks and work up to longer ones. It would benefit both of you.
Don't try to make it an "I'm trying to fix you" effort. If you do that, it will make her feel defective and eventually it will affect the relationship.

Answer 6

It's awesome that you are concerned about your girl's health! She's lucky to have someone who loves her so much! My advice is to have a heart to heart with her not so much about her weight but about the health risks brought on by obesity. And whatever route she takes to loose weight, join her even though it isn't needed for your own benefit, it will be appreciated by her.Try this dinner idea that I love. It's low fat but doesn't feel like a diet food to me. In a skillet cook boneless,skinless chicken breasts until all the pink is gone. Do not use butter or oil! PAM cooking spray works fine. Once chicken is no longer pink, pour a jar of Pace Medium Picante Sauce or Salsa over the chiken and simmer on low for 10 minutes. Sprinkle with Fat Free Shredded Cheddar Cheese and continue to simmer until cheese melts fully. Serve with a side of black beans, Tostitos WOW Fat Free Tortilla chips and salsa. It's very filling, taste great and doesn't take long to make. For more ideas on cooking, check out www.allrecipies.com, they have tons of ideas, you can scale down servings the recipies yeild, gives nutrtion info, and has reviews and tips from other readers. Above all, let her know that you LOVE her and that's why you are concerned about her health.

Answer 7

just tell her how much you love her and you see the road she's going down and you want her to be around for a long time and make sure you tell her you will support her efforts 100% because you love her and dont wanna see anything happen to her and along with her tryng to change your going to get in shape with her so she doesnt feel its all 1 sided and you can get yhose stir fry meals from the frozen food section their healthy and good and than there are different kinds to choose from and instead of junk foods replace them with apples and other fruit and veggies than you can make chicken alfredo it is so good and healthy oh yeah encourage her to make friends hope everything works out

Answer 8

Forget the attitude about weight, Her health and her life is at risk. Any time she could die now. Do the right thing and put her in a hospital.

Answer 9

whatever it is that you think you can afford for the both of you, say a years payments to a weight loss clinic, or a gym, or something similar, then do it for the both of you and lead her not push her.

Answer 10

Buy her and you a gym membership as a gift and make it out to be something you could do together.