Everytime she goes out with her friends I have twenty questions when she gets home. Sometimes I feel like she is too good for me. We have been dating for three years.... Any help out there??
2006-08-16 14:31:51 · 14 answers · asked by Ray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you could go complete psycho and follow her, or you could realize that jealousy is a self fulfilling prophecy, if you get all jealous and give her the third degree whenever she goes out then you will drive her away. think about it this way if you really didn't trust her you wouldn't be with her, what you are feeling is just mild paranoid jitters, so just try to put it out of your mind and be happy that you are with her
2006-08-16 14:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing...my boyfriend has the same problem. He's worried I'll find someone better or lose interest in him. The thing is, I'm still with HIM and no one else. If I wanted to leave or thought I was wasting my time, I would have been gone a long time ago. You have been together for 3 years, that has to mean there's something there right? If you don't give her her freedom, you are going to lose her. No girl or guy likes to be controlled or drilled about where they've been. Leave that job to the parents. You have to learn to let go and just believe that she isn't going anywhere. She loves YOU and only you. To take your mind off of her going out, go and do the same. Hang out with the guys and have fun. Your lives don't have to revolve around each other. It's never bad to have a life outside of each other. Hanging out with each other 24/7 is just going to drive the both of you crazy. So go out, do your own thing but remain faithful and things should be fine. If in the end things don't work out, then they weren't meant to be but until then, respect that she loves you and still wants to be with you and let her be. If she's "the one", she won't let you down.
2006-08-16 21:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should be with you for some reason. Three years is a long time. Just do it. If you feel that she is too good for you, then do something about yourself and your self image to bring yourself up to par. Two things are very important in a relationship. RESPECT and TRUST. If one of these is missing then you are in trouble. Love cannot live without trust or respect.
2006-08-16 22:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by camilledg127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sort of going through the samething with my boyfirend, we've been together for almost two years.
Just take the plunge and trust her. Just do it.
Its going to be hard, but its better to find out sooner rather then later that shes faithful to you.
Three years says alot though you have to admit.
2006-08-16 21:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by Katy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem. Ask yourself, has she ever given you a reason not to trust her? And if wants something "better" don't you think she would have "gone shopping" after three years. Just say to yourself that she is with you for a reason.
2006-08-16 21:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u think to think why are you insecure and why dont you trust your girlfriend... have she ever done anything to make you doubt her.. has she ever lied to you in the past, or been unfaithful to you.. if the answer is no.. than you have no reason to not trust her.. just have faith in her, if you love her..you will give her the benefit of the doubt.. this world is filled with liars or people with ulterior motives.. but we will never really know who these people are.. you just have to believe in them, if she hasnt done anything wrong.. she deserves your trust.. until she does something to lose it.
2006-08-16 21:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by catchme318 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax... If something is going to happen, it's gonna happen...There is nothing you can do about that. But it's what you do afterward that makes the difference. Enjoy your relationship! Life is too Short to be insecure....
2006-08-16 21:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Pretti Poodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dun trust yr gf actually means dun trust yrslf..low self-esteem..bt y after 3yrs?any threads recently?u need to find the root cause b4 jumpin to action..all problems lies wit our self...compare the feel when u try to let go n weight the differents...u will koe the answer very soon...gd luck...
2006-08-16 21:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mobiken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a choice - either decide you can trust her and stop the interrogation routine or decide you can't trust her and break up with her. Either way, you stop driving yourself nuts.
2006-08-16 21:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by m&m_manic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indeed she's too good for you,because you can't even trust her love for you althought she has been proving it to you during three years.
2006-08-16 21:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by abysses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋