2006-08-16 14:11:40 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because he is getting older and needed someone to reassure him that he was still attractive and fanciable to the opposite sex - he was flattered and it boosted his ego. Don't know anything about your relationship but I would say maybe you both got into a rut and he got bored too. Hope it works out for you.
2006-08-16 21:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww so sad to hear that. Ya know, don't feel so LETDOWN.........he might have gotten a touch of boredom or staleness in the marriage. It gets routine and some people can't handle it. The question to you is can YOU handle it now and work things out? Even with a counselor to help maybe or a pastor in a church can talk to you too. That's IF you still want to try. After 26 yrs it sounds like you do want to keep it together. Hurtful? Yes. Good Luck with your choices and don't forget to talk this over with someone you trust. :)
2006-08-16 14:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by shizzlechit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for you. I would feel so lost and hopeless if my husband did something like that.
Sometimes there really isn't any good reason for it.
If it was just a "fling" and he swears it didn't mean anything, you should believe him and give him another chance. That would be hard to do, but honestly 26 years should count for something.
Have you considered the possibility that he has done this before, but just never got caught until now? I don't know the whole story, of course...just trying to imagine.
The person who suggested you let yourself go... they may have a point, but I don't buy that theory. I think it might be more likely that you let HIM go. As we get older sometimes we forget that men like to be pursued. They want us to want them.
2006-08-16 14:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply put....you both forgot how to "date". Take time away from the stress' of life and make time for a dinner date, a movie, a drive somewhere or a bike ride, a weekend getaway. Keep in mind that any relationship requires attention from both partners. If your husband doesn't initiate it, do something yourself to initiate "alone time" and get out of that day-to-day groove. Surprise each other with a fresh idea and keep things "alive". Relationships do not work by themselves, you have to work at it together. You have to ask yourself if you can again trust. You may need to think that over before you decide what your future holds? Hope this helps...
2006-08-16 18:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by Yafunee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband cheated on me after 16 years of marriage. No matter when it happens, it is the ultimate betrayal. Broken heart, broken home, and rebuilding my life now. We grew apart, he started changing his look, actually BOUGHT new underwear...and that is when I knew I had to find out. Darling, all I can say is try to take care of yourself. If you can forgive him, and save your marriage, try. Men do slip. I was willing to try, but he was so taken in by the other woman. Once our divorce was finalized, and he tried to come back. He had passed the point of no return. I wanted to be his first choice, not a consolation prize. I also started going to church again, finished my MBA, and have been promoted at work. So I would say I came out on top, and I wish I had all of the answers, but darling, do take care of yourself. In the end it isn't important why, but it is important what you decide to do about it. I confronted the situation. Read Isaiah Chapter 54. It was all I could do to get through that time in my life. It is not easy.
2006-08-16 14:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. It's possible he has been cheating for a while. My experience in this world, people get married without fully realizing that they are not ready to restrict their hearts and bodies to just one person- they haven't finished "sowing their wild oats". It's so painful and I feel for you. Hopefully when the hard part wears off, you'll be stronger and smarter for this. Please try with all your might not to blame yourself, your spouse probably had issues. I cheated when I was young and confused and had low self esteem and in my life, these are the times I so sorely regret. If I had it do all over again, I would do that differently...Good luck.
2006-08-16 14:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably been cheating for 26 years, you only just found out.
2006-08-20 10:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Noadonis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about your husband? Does this man really love the woman he's with? Did they marry really young or were too immature? Was he still living at home or was his mom still taking care of him when he got married?
This person is selfish to hurt his wife/partner. He can't or won't consider the consequences of his actions on others, he only wants to make himself feel good. Or he is a coward in a relationship that is not working and won't face the facts.
I'm sorry this is happening.
2006-08-16 14:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by Iristine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to know after 26 years of what?
2006-08-16 14:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When the last time was that you thought about your husband as an absolute stud ?
When was the last time that you actually paid attention to what your husband dreamed about ?
When was the last time you sat down and had a real conversation with your husband ?
When was the last time you dressed up in sexy underwear and made the first move ?
How many dress sizes have you gone up by since you were married ?
If you answer these questions honestly then you may start to have an inkling about the reason.
2006-08-16 17:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋