I'm asking this question because, about two years ago I had some medium acne, 2 years before that it was an operation for my ears and today it's some problem with my back that hurts when I run (because of a snowboard accident last year). I don't have any acne, my ears are fine, back still hurts. All these things have been hard for me and because of these I have a big problem of self esteem. I have trouble looking someone in the eyes when I talk / I'm very shy with girls / etc? Now, I look better and alot of girls are staring at me but I'm kind of avoiding them because of this self esteem problem. The only thing that helped me was at work, I manage the whole floor so, since then I speak lounder, not scared to give orders, etc. But I still have this problem with girls. Any help?
2006-08-16 14:09:00 · 5 answers · asked by Sequence 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
there are no easy answers. The love of Jesus, even for Christians is tough to receive if our self-worth is not high. I feel that a closer contact relationship with girls, ie take a class where there is an emphasis on working together can help. developing relationships with girls on a platonic level helps the heart to get the foot in the door. outwardly self worth is setting personal goals and achieving them. go small and slow. with each success comes better feelings. bottom line is that you need to feel that you are worth the effort of feeling good whatever the situation. not at the expense of others though.
2006-08-16 14:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by firechap20 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had self-esteem issues when I was a teenager. Now that I am an adult , my issues have all but subsided. I realized that it doesn't matter what other people think of me. I am me and that is all I'll ever be. If that isn't good enough for some people than that is too bad.
Don't worry what other people think about you. Be yourself and people will either like you or they won't. You are not going to be able to make everyone like you but if you are true to yourself than the ones that do like you will like you for who you are. I hope this is making sense, I am kind of rambling. The point is if you believe in yourself than others will too. If you are shy around girls, that is alright. There is a girl out there for you and you may not find her today or tomorrow but eventually you will find her. Just remember to look people in the eyes even if it is hard and that in itself should help build your confidence.
2006-08-16 14:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Antisocial 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many institutions that offer Self esteem courses. From what you are saying there is really nothing to be shy about. Girls love the "shy" type. This is something nobody else will be able to help you with in the long run, YOU have to start liking what is looking back at you in the mirror. (that is SO hard, because I am overweight - same thing) Make friends with girls that you can relate to, with the same interests as you, you may find one that turns out not to care about any of your imperfections and love you for who you are.
2006-08-16 14:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by iluvafrica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to remeber this...I learned it when I was in high school and still keep it in mind today.
Everyone on takes a crap and wipes their @ss.
Why is any one better than you, me or the Pope? We all do it. Even if our backs hurt. No one is better than you nor do they have the righ to think it. F them. If they do, ask them if they wiped their @ss the last time they took a crap.
2006-08-16 15:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by mxbrown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confidence
2006-08-16 14:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by the_blue_martini_69 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋