I have known him over 10 years whilst I've been in a relationship. Now that is over, he tried it on this past weekend. I resisted going all the way but now I really want him
2006-08-16 14:07:51 · 19 answers · asked by Debs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He won't be your friend after that, he'll be your lover. He could become your ex-lover one day, but that won't return him to being your friend. Then he's out of your life If you can accept that risk, go ahead.
2006-08-16 14:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by Hermit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation myself a few years ago.
I'd been with this bloke for five years and just split up with him. My friend had also just ended a long term relationship. I hadn't seen him for a while and we met up for a drink and things kinda went from there....!
We'd been friends for over ten years and I was really worried that our friendship would be spoilt, but five years later we got married! Sometimes it does work and it's great cos we know each others friends and pasts and stuff so there's no dark secrets lurking!!
2006-08-16 22:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have had this long term friendship and wish to take it further, I can guarantee you will be making a huge mistake. Take it from one who has been there a couple of times. It's very difficult to look at the person the same way again once you have dated the person who had been a friend to only ask for them to be friends again. nine times out of ten, the second friendship around just dies and you never hear from that persona again. How do I know, as I said, ive been there and believe me, it hurts soo bad..so PLEASE dont mess up what youve got with this person as your friend. Pursue a loving relationship with someone else. OK?
2006-08-16 16:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by sylverdreamer2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well see the thing with this one is that if you go further with him than being a friend he will no longer be your friend even if you do it and agree to still be friends or what not things between you 2 will never be the same because you both will always have that memory in the back of your mind and things actually may get awkward if you dont actually start dating or if you do date and break up then things may go bad but you never know but if you are willing to take that risk and really like him and he really likes you then go for it i mean dont deny feelings so strong right?
2006-08-16 16:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by blurred_memories09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide. If he is a genuine friend he wont upset you, but please hold back and get to know him as a Boyfriend first. Go out with him a couple of times and see if you feel as if you want a sexual relationship first. Many a great love has started with friendship, so take your time and see how it goes.
2006-08-20 09:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by ladybee5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if the Long term is 15 to Life.
2006-08-16 14:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats is amazingly smart yet how did you recognize its going to be lengthy time period? You cant fortell the destiny like that.. i imagine you should attend some months.. in case you adult men are completely in love than flow for it.. once you've sex earlier being in love than it would want to screw up issues//... solid success! not having sex which includes your boyfriend n someone you care about very dearly is so not user-friendly!!! because all you favor to do is only educate them how a lot you're taking care of them..
2016-11-04 23:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex can easily ruin the friendship. Someone always get hurt- if all you want is sex then no after all there toys for that!!!
If you want a relationship then fair do's- ask where u stand but with whats happened already it could mean it's already changed you relationship.
2006-08-16 14:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by miko2606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you value your friendship over the physical stuff? Because if you guys fall out about the sex then guaranteed you will find it hard to maintain your friendship.
Ask him his intentions, and outline what each are you are after out of this before any clothes come off. if it's just sex he wants, he might be just trying to take advantage of you in your vulnerable state.
Don't go rushing in, because you can' take back what's already done. KWIM?
2006-08-16 14:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's always had a hankering after you and was just waiting for the right opportunity.
Somebody who is willing to wait that long for his chance could be a good bet for some serious fireworks.
Good luck
2006-08-16 16:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋