How would you feel if your husband always checks what time you'll arrive home, always ask for your assistance even if he can do it on his own & got all the maids around. How should he be stopped, it's disturbing coz you won't be able to concentrate on your work & on what you are thinking coz every now & then he calls.
2006-08-16 13:50:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Start doing the same thing to him. Let him know exactly how annoying it is to be timed on everything he does. Ask him for help with things that you can do on your own.
2006-08-16 14:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sara J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's a shame that you've already made a commitment, because I usually recommend ending a relationship when the other person is so insecure/possessive, based on personal experience. But you've already got a lot invested, and have a difficult task ahead of you.
First of all, you need to tell him straight out that you have made a promise to him, as he has to you, which means that there should be faith and trust. Remind him that he is acting like a High Schooler, and that he is an adult and you are neither his mother nor his child. Continue that you are an adult with other responsibilities, and he needs to respect that you can't just drop everything because he wants to chat.
Then seek out counseling as a couple and individuals to determine why he's so needy and how you allowed the relationship to evolve to the point where it is now. You are already developing resentment, which never goes away on it's own. Make sure you communicate that fact clearly, so that he understands that if these issues are not resolved, it might ultimately be the downfall of the marriage. I hope he takes you seriously, and that you are able to work it out and have a stronger relationship for it. Good Luck!
2006-08-16 20:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking him about this is the best way of resolution. He won;t know he's aready being annoying without you telling it to his face. You don't have to start a fight, a good and warm chat could do it, without hurting his ego. Just tell him you beleive in his talent, in his ability that whatever he wants to do in his life, he can do it by himself without always seeking your help. It might just become a challenge for him. In that way, you have saved your marriage from its threatening fall, as well as gelping your guy improve himself.
2006-08-16 21:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let his calls go into voice mail and the next time he asks for something he can do on his own, say NO!
You do have a say in what you do.
2006-08-16 21:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl be glad that he wants to spend time with you. Most woman complain of them not wanting to spend time with them.
2006-08-16 21:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the ringer off. Say no.
2006-08-16 20:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋