Is It Really Okay To Like Someone Of Your Own Gender?

Question

I am 14 (almost 15) and was raised by my grandfather, a baptist preacher, since I was 4 and my parents died. He taught me that it was wrong and a sin against God, and if I did I would go to Hell.

My sister, nine years older than me, was raised after our parents died by our other grandparents. Recently my grandfather passed away and I now live with my sister, who has friends who are bisexual, and she says it is okay... But I am still not so sure... Is it really okay to be bisexual? What if you only like those of your own gender, and not any of the opposite...?

Answer 1

Gays and bis are both ok.

What I'm going to say next is not something you want to hear -- don't read any further if you are not willing to hear it. If you are .. read on --




The bible is a very interesting mythic book -- stress on the mythic. God is totally without error -- so anything s/he does is totally without error. He is the cosmic all -- the same, unchanging -- and most of those things you've heard said by your grandfather, and by other evangelical church leaders. So then, the Bible should have no errors, no internal contradictions, and so forth....

Well.... you bring up homosexuality....

I believe what the Bible says about homosexuality exactly as much as I believe what it says about planting seed together and about wearing clothing of mixed fabric [Leviticus 19:19]. I accept that the Bible is correct about being gay in exactly the same way that I accept what it says about committing genocide in god's name [Joshua 10:40-42 and Joshua 11: 18-23]; about god accepting a human sacrifice [Judges 11:30-39]; about a successful land sacrifice (looking EXACTLY like the land sacrifices being offered by other pagan kingdoms) [II Samuel 21] and about god causing cannibalism among the people [Deuteronomy 28: 53-59].

The Bible is a book full of historical errors [We now know that Jericho was abandoned for hundreds of years before the story of its seizure by the Israelites, additionally, we know that it was NEVER walled. The battle of Jericho never took place therefore], biological errors [Leviticus 11: 21-23 -- locusts have six feet of course], and mathematical errors [Numbers 3:16-39 -- add them up yourself, 300 more than the Bible totals the numbers to].

So the short answer is no, I don't believe what the Bible says -- about homosexuality or anything else. The earth does not sit on pillars [I Samuel 2:8] nor is it established atop the waters [Psalms 24:1-2]. It does not have corners [Isaiah 11:12], nor do there exist treasuries of the air -- though that is not an uncommon thought in the days that the bible was written [Psalm 135:7].

The Bible has little to do with historical Christianity (the canon of books was not established until after the Council of Nicea and not finalized until the Council of Carthage). Christianity is all about following Christ, not about following a book. Your sister's friends who are bisexual -- they are fine -- totally safe. So are any gay friends she has -- or any other gays that you may know -- no matter who they are. God doesn't condemn for masturbation and He doesn't condemn for who you love or who you like to sleep with.

Yes, the Bible says he does -- but as you can see, it says alot of other stuff too -- and it is often outright wrong. Since it is wrong on some things, it can't be trusted on anything.

Feel better, and I'm truly sorry about your grandfather -- may he rest in the Light of Christ.

Kind regards,

Reynolds
Schenectady, NY -- USA
http;//www.rebuff.org
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Answer 2

I don't think that you should be bisexual because your sister says it's okay. And I don't think you shouldn't be bisexual because your grandfather said it isn't okay. You should be what you naturally are regardless of whether someone says it's okay or not. If you actually are born bisexual, then that is what you are so express that in your life.

And it's difficult to be what you naturally are sometimes, it effects many people whether it be about sexuality or race or religion or some other way of life. Just be yourself, it may be painful, but it will be worth it in the long run because you'll know your being you, and not being what someone says you should be, or being someone else. You can look in the mirror and say to yourself that you are honestly being who you are, and that you are running your own life. A lot of people aren't as successful with that as some others, it takes some bravery I think. But you won't know if you can do it unless you try. And I think you can.

I hope that helps.

Answer 3

Your grandfather taught you some old traditions of his church, that he believed, and this didn't make him a bad person.

But today we understand that God made gay and bisexual people, and transgendered people, and straight people. We are all different, but we are all God's children.

It's ok to love anyone, as long as your relationship is based upon caring love, and respect for yourself and the other person. The best evidence we have is that gay people are born that way, and that we don't make a choice to be gay. Just like straight people are born that way, and they don't make a choice to be straight.

Please keep an open mind, and know that your sister is probably as wise as your grandfather, she has just learned new and different things.

Answer 4

I guess your parents & grandparents are devoted to bible. Bible didn't exactly say it's wrong but it does imply. Seriously. it's just a damn book, trying to get people be goody good shoes.

Homosexuality is evident everywhere in historical texts. Roman soldiers encouraged men to be in love with each other so they have more passion for fighting for one another. Thus, winning a battle or keeping up population. Many kings had male slaves for sexual uses. Emperor Alexander the Great had numerous of lovers plus a wife to breed. I mean, it's pretty common. I don't see why homosexuality should be restricted or forbad today, especially by one book, the bible.

How does your feelings toward females any different from toward males? Seriously, wtf. It's okay.

Answer 5

Yes, my Dear One, it's alright to Like and to Love some one of your own gender. Your grandfather, bless his soul, was undoubtedly a good man but forgot that God loves the Children He put here. You're not damned. Love is a very special thing. You're young yet and in te middle of puberty and you'll be attracted to both sexes. The only thing I ask is that you be careful. There's so many things out there one can get nowadays. It is really okay to be bi-sexual. Would this furry face steer you wrong? Blessings, my Son.

Answer 6

Joshua

There're those who preach against it and there are those who practise it.

If you believe in Him, I don't think it was God's will that we be put on this earth to suffer torment and be without the offer of love and fulfilment from an attentive partner. So If your choice of prospective partners is limited to the same gender I don't know why God would pick on you especially and say you had to suffer without...

...so I think YES it is REALLY OKAY!

All the best.

Answer 7

I think it's ok for people to be anything they want to be as long as they are not hurting anyone. Sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with and how can it be wrong to love someone? I understand where you are coming from though as some members of my family would find that totally unacceptable on religious grounds. I think there has to be flexibility in people's thinking though and it's up to God to judge at the end of the day, not us.

Answer 8

Try reading the following article that was written by a southern Baptist Preacher. It may help you come to terms with the fact that it is normal and okay to be homosexual.

www.godmademegay.com

Answer 9

I used to struggle with the same problem. As a Christian I was told that it was evil,sick,sin-full and abomination to God. After much studying of The KJV Bible, I have realized that the bible didn't condemn loving and committed gay relationships. It condemned rape,orgies,ritualistic orgies,and male prostitution.

As far as the Ex-Gay Christian movement goes. I have known some one who has claimed to have "changed".
I believe that one can deny who they are ,but deep inside they still feel those feelings.

if you wanna talk email me at [e-mail]

Answer 10

Josh you need to live your life the way you feel best.
Despite what some religous people say, being gay is not a sin.
check out some of these links, one is a church that explains the passages in the bible for you
best wishes
chris
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http://www.cathedralofhope.com/homosexuality/index.php

http://gaylife.about.com/

http://www.borndifferent.org/