why did he say that?

Question

i liked this guy and my friend told him and he siad i was ugly and chunky i wieght 90 i am 14 and all guys like me cute ones too i was sad what should i do cuz i want a boyfriend cuz i just got out of a relationship

Answer 1

He said it because he is a piece of **** and you should avoid him. If you just got out of a relationship, give yourself a little breathing room inbetween so you do not end up unhappy in a rebound thing..Good luck..and focus on guys that don't have their heads shoved up their asses.

Also..Chris may have a point..are you sure your friend didn't just say that because she might secretly like the guy?

Answer 2

wow, how rude that was! If you weigh 90 pounds you certainly are not chunky. Would you really want someone like that for a friend or boyfriend? I have three daughters. 17,16,and 9. None of them have a boyfriend. Is there a reason to try and be with one person at 14? Maybe you could just try to hang out with friends for a while. Always remember that a true friend will be honest with you but will never do anything purposely to hurt your feelings. As you get older, there will be enough people in the world that are rude. You do not need to have people in your life that will hurt you in any way. If you are ever in doubt of how you should be treated, ask yourself if you would like to see your mom, grandmother, or friend treated that way. If your answer is no, than walk away from the situation. People will only treat you as good or bad as you let them

Answer 3

You Are Too Young To Be Worring About Boys Trust Me You Will Have Lots Of Time To Worry About Them ... Spend Time With Friends Having Fun That Way And Always Put The Time In That You Worry About Boys Into Studing That Will Pay Off Better For You In The End ...

Answer 4

Why did he say that? Face it - he was trying to be mean. When someone wants to be mean to a teenage girl, what do they say? "You're fat, you're ugly" - only because they know that's exactly what hurts the most.

If he'd said "you're gay", or "you're weak", or "you throw like a girl" - would you have been as upset? No! That's what guys say when they want to hurt guys. Different button to push to hurt different types of people.

It doesn't mean he's right (he's not). It doesn't mean he even thinks you are - he's saying it, even though he knows it's not true because he knows it will hurt you. It's the verbal equivalent of a punch in the face.

The other question is - why did he say that? Why did he want to hurt you?

Some people are just nasty. They like to hurt people.

Some people say nasty things to turn things around - put the focus on you; if you come after him to say "why?", then he's got control. That's a manipulative personality.

Or maybe he's scared, afraid of closeness and committment and pushing people away. Don't fall for that- it's another form of manipulation. You chase him... he wins. You don't chase him, you feel hurt, he's won because he set the agenda, he's happy and you're not.

My best advice - ignore they guy, find someone who's more sympathetic. If that's his personality - to lash out and hurt people he barely knows - he's not going to improve anytime soon.

Answer 5

Omit the middleman. Don't do relationship stuff by going through friends. Also, if someone likes you, you'll know it for yourself.
If he really said that stuff or something to that effect, you'll be able to tell by how he acts around you. Then you'll know not to bother having feelings. Don't let your friend see you unconfident coz if she told you those things he supposedly said, imagine what she'd tell him about your reaction.

Try to focus on school for now and do a lot of stuff like volunteering or other extracurriculars. Good people will come to you, hopefully, unless you don't keep yourself with good people who treat you right.

Answer 6

He was trying to be mean. Lets face it, you are NOT chunky nor ugly. Don't listen to that garbage. Don't worry about gettinig into another relationship until you get a good relationship with yourself. You need to feel comfortable with yourself. Don't let some guy dictate how you feel about yourself. Insecure girls are a problem because guys take advantge of them. Don't be one of those girls. I don't want to hear about how some guy got you pregnant because he always told you what you wanted to hear and you had sex with him. Don't give up on yourself. Feel good about yourself. Peace.

Answer 7

90 pounds is no where near to fat//i would question him whos to say he even said that maybe she just said that plus if he did say that he is missing out //give a few yrs when your body matures and he wants you //u can tell him you dont want no fat guy and let him feel the same way you felt and let him see what he's missing out//keep your head up and keep your eyes on the lord for direction and work on school before guys//all guys will do is get you like me 15 and pregnant

Answer 8

sweety i think alot of these answers are right,he is either gay or a complete jerk.dont worry thought as long as you dont let nothing he says hurt you you will be fine no guy is worth your tears.he may be saying it because he likes you.alot of guys do that if they cant have you.don't try start a new relationship if you have just left one you will end upi hurting the guy an lieing you yourself..im just using my friends computer an thought your question was a good one because my younger sister has just hit the same stop as you..good luck focus on school not boys believe me they are not worth it

Answer 9

Don't feel that you need another guy already. Give yourself some time alone because rebound relationships are doomed to fail.
Just concentrate on your schoolwork, honey- and remember that you are NOT ugly or chunky.
He's just really immature and you should be glad you haven't found yourself in a relationship with him.

Answer 10

Well if he really did say that, then he is not worth it. Girl when it is the right time, you will meet the guy who becomes your boyfriend. All you gotta do is wait and he will come. However, makes sure he thinks nothing wrong of you and dont let your friends get in your business. It is ok to talk about it, but dont let them get in.