My husband travels five days a week with a new job, he's supposed to come home on Wednesdays, but doesn't...

Question

My husband got a great new job but unfortunately it requires him to be near the job site - two hours away. He committed to coming home on Wednesdays to break up the week. So far he has cancelled out 4 out of 5 weeks. And he cancels at about 5:30 p.m., rather than calling me early on in the day. How should I handle this?

We have a 10 month old and I hate to see her missing daddy time, and I am really struggling with this. His last job was just 7 minutes from our house. I am so sad, help!

Answer 1

Evetually it is going to come down to the family or his job.

If you don't want that to happen you need to move closer to his job.

I mean if he is not cheating. driving 2 hour there and back get tireing especially after a hard days work. you wouldn't want to do it either. you need to move closer to his job

Answer 2

I'm assuming he comes home on the weekends. My husband owns his own business and works away from home alot. Working all day and then traveling 2 hours....only to have to get up EXTRA early in the morning and travel 2 MORE hours BEFORE he starts another day of work.......well, that does sound very tiring. Especially if he is already coming home on the weekends. If this is a permanent job, I would look into moving closer to the job site. If it is temporary, then try to make it as best you can for now and enjoy the weekends

To be honest, men don't seem to REALLY enjoy having children until the kids are old enough to start playing. I noticed that with my husband and brothers. Once your 10 month old gets old enough to start waiting at the door for her Daddy, you'll probably find that your husband sees the benefits of being at home more like you do. Right now he probably doesn't think the baby really needs him or misses him.

Answer 3

I travel in my work as well, sometimes as far as 12 hours away but I never miss an opportunity to come home to my wife. If he's only two hours away and doesn't come home I would wonder whats up.

Answer 4

Sounds to me he as a side dish and does not want to come home. Sorry Family should be the most important thing in a mans life. I realize he is trying to be financially resposible but he is not help you out. If he is waiting till the end of the day to tell you he is not comming home its sounds like he is waiting until he hears from the other person to see if she is free.

Answer 5

Why are you forcing him to choose between his career and his family? What is the point in you continuing to live two hours from his work? Pick up stakes and move closer to his job. Is your house/apartment really valuable enough to crater your family?

Answer 6

ohhh man i feel so sorry for you. i totally feel your pain. my husband comes home late, around 7 or 8pm. well, thats late for me.
in your case you should have a talk with him. have you? im sure you have. tell him that he needs to be home more.
what in the world does he do to not come home for weeks? gosh i dont care how much theyd pay me but id never stay away from my man that long.
good luck.
take care and tell your man you want him next to you.

Answer 7

I'm really sad about Ur situation it too tough i mean seriously is'nt love must be reqired in this family talk to him tell him what do u feel ask him to search for a new job in ur city its better for u and ur child trust me.

good luck

Answer 8

okay. you're letting him get away with this. don't!

be forceful about this. he gets time off and he chooses to spend it away from you.

you need to tell him his priorities need to change; either he comes home during the week to spend time with his wife and child or his wife may not be there when he does.

Answer 9

i think he has somebody else but don't worry when they break up he'll go back to u you just gotta be patient