Im a good person. I respect people and their feelings. Im a very loving and caring individual but yet all the people in my life are the opposite and treats me like ****, "friends" and family. I was raised to treat others as u want to be treatd and I have lived by that for 29 yrs. I dont having a deceitful bone in my body. Im not sayn Im perfect because when I get pissd, I explode but overall Im a good person and people always take advantage of that. I dont wanna here stop being so nice or caring, its who I am. Why would people want to take advantage of someone else anyway, its just plain cruel. Lately Ive found myself diassociating myself with these people, why cant I find good people in my life? people I meet, I usually distance myself from them or they distance themselves from me.
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2006-08-16 12:26:17 · 8 answers · asked by 3doorsdowner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't be a doormat. If someone does something bad to you do it right back. If they say something mean to you you should call them on it and make them look bad and they'll figure out that you won't take it. I am having the same problem as you. All my friends are mean to me and they try to make me look stupid and it is because I don't say anything back. I just laugh it off and act like it doesn't bother me. I don't hang out with those people anymore either. Just call people on it when they are mean to you and say they wouldn't like it if you done it to them.
2006-08-16 12:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person similarly dispositioned, my first inclination is to give you this philosophical analogy of opposites attracting...that is true on some level and likely you've heard it before. (That is, givers tend to attract takers and vice versa....cosmic balance) More to the real point however, ( and it's apparent in the tone of your question ) you're probably giving off such an aura from having been misused so often that quality people are running away from you or keeping a discreet distance...when all you really want to keep at bay are the users. Been there, done that. There's a certain amount of introspection required to conquer that tendency, but you can only do that when you've put your pains into perspectve...it'll take what it takes. But there's a day coming that will bring you to a place of joy ( tempered with a healthy self-respect), and from that platform you'll generate an aura that demands respect without simultaneously generating hostility in the process. It's all good, though. You deserve the time necessary to get to that place and no one has a right to rush you. I'm just sure you'll be happier once this phase has passed. Best of luck as you make this journey.
2006-08-16 12:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What goes around, comes around. They will be on the other end. one of these days.. And, will remember. what they did to you. Keep being your self. It pays off, in the long run.. At least, You won't feel guilty. About, the way you treat people.. You will be able to sleep at night. And, believe me. Some people do notice nice people.. Have a good one.. Take care. I hope you feel better. You sound depressed.
2006-08-16 12:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Daris G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, I am the same way. We just have to try to live are lives the best that we can, and move forward to the goals we want to achieve. We can't give up just because people dont like that we care.
2006-08-16 12:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by aim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're just in the wrong place..u have to remember that u cant please everybody..u cant expect them to treat u the way u want them to be to..they have their own traits and personality...when u do good things thats becuase you're good as u say..dont expect people to return the favor..you'll jsut get disappointed..just give without expecting something in return, thats the best way..if they return the favor, thank them, if they dont continue living the way u are :) and be happy with it :)
2006-08-16 12:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you need to start giving some of the **** there giving you back because there just taking advantage of you just because your nice and hopefully people will stop what their doing to you
2006-08-16 12:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by latinahotbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 12:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My favorite saying, which I made up myself... "Let idiots be idiots."
If they treat you like dirt, dump them.
Why do you want to let them take advantage of you?
Toughen up.
2006-08-16 12:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by mommy_mommy_crappypants 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋