I think they are trashy but when I confront him about how I feel he gets offended... his plea is that I am his woman so what difference does it make... any suggestions to get him to understand?
2006-08-16 11:55:51 · 33 answers · asked by Goddess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl... I hear you.. Just explain to him how you feel about hickeys.. Tell him that he should feel sure about your love, that marks on your skin should not make him feel like he owns you..If you two are already engaged this should tell him that the relationship is strong, unless there is something else going on that should make him feel insecure... Maybe let him leave them were you can't see then as much, or compromise. Some people just enjoy having or giving them.. go figure.... Good luck
2006-08-16 12:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by ..Luna.. *.. ) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it can't be covered by EVERYDAY clothes it is trashy. How do you look at the clerk in a store with a bunch on their neck? Yuk! There is a whole lot of skin that is between a tank top and pair of shorts!! *If you are a consenting adult*, Me: Don't mark me! It makes you look trashy so others see you that way! Then, "you are HIS" He is dis- respecting you, if you have a problem with it. NO!! If he really cares he won't do it. Point it out on somebody else sometime. I know I see it several times a week. Be firm it bothers you.. (and me personally)
2006-08-16 12:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by iceberg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Major Red Flag!
Your fiance' has to understand that first and foremost, you're at least your own woman and hopefully your daddy's girl till he gives you away. Until you're married, he has no claim there.
After that, you are right in expressing how you feel about hickeys and to demand he does not give you one. He should respect you enough to not go there. If he insists, it's time to cool his jets by saying no to any hanky panky.
Bring it up it in your pre-mariatal counselling. You'll get some good conversation there.
If you have a problem here, you sure gonna have conflict when bigger issues come up.
2006-08-16 12:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Michael R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol very humorous question, yet a hickey is an "i replaced into right here!" ingredient, variety of like a mark of delight. So in case you do no longer choose it to be seen, do no longer place it on his neck. A hickey is led to via lips breaking blood vessels and that's elementary to do on the comfortable neck. it rather is much less common to do, say, on the only of someones foot. yet it rather is usually a call no person might see it there. additionally, you may desire to place a hickey on his top inner thigh, no person will on no account see that one lol. i in my opinion was hoping I helped =]
2016-09-29 08:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he is sleeping, make a hickey smiley face in the middle of his forehead, or in some place obvious. Make sure that he will be going to work the next day. He will be made fun of by the people at work, and should then understand what you go through when he does it to you.
2006-08-16 12:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He MUST respect your feelings, otherwise this will be a marriage of difficulty. If you think hickeys are trashy, then you have the right to tell your partner to stop, and if he is a man, he will stop.
2006-08-16 12:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is basically leaving these marks to let others know who you "belong to" it's a male thing mostly...territorial!!
What I would recommend is telling him he can give you the hickeys but in more discreet places...also tell him that your job doesn't allow them...which usually works...and hopefully he will compromise with you...
2006-08-16 12:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the hickney is a show of ownership - - this chick is mine!!
If you tell him how you feel and he gets offended that indicates that he doesn't care how you feel, doesn't respect your feelings.
Next time you discuss this with him, tell him that you are his girl, but he doesn't need to leave any body marks, and you regard hickneys as a sign of disrespect!!
2006-08-16 12:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it is unprofessional, going to work or school, with a hickey on your neck. Tell him he can leave them other places!
2006-08-16 12:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he respects you he will stop doing it and if he doesn't you are very turned off to him. Put him in the dog house if he doesn't get it for a few days. If that doesn't work - you are marrying this guy for what reason?
2006-08-16 12:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋