What makes a person become a homosexual?

Question

With all respect and dignity,serious answers only please.
Also, I dont believe that it is genetic.......there is no proof

Whoa!!!!!!I didnt expect to get so many angry responses......please notice with all dignity and respect.....also JR ignorance and bigotry are completely two different words I would classify myself as ignorant on this subject.

FYI I was raised to respect all people reguardless of any differences they had from me or mainstream America. Also, a very close relative recently left her husband of 18 years left her husband for a man and I respect her greatly and would like insight into her decisions etc...
peace
also,I am a Christian and believe I am the biggest sinner of all and would not condemn anyone

Whoa!!!!!!I didnt expect to get so many angry responses......please notice with all dignity and respect.....also JR ignorance and bigotry are completely two different words I would classify myself as ignorant on this subject.

FYI I was raised to respect all people reguardless of any differences they had from me or mainstream America. Also, a very close relative recently left her husband of 18 years left her husband for a woman and I respect her greatly and would like insight into her decisions etc...
peace
also,I am a Christian and believe I am the biggest sinner of all and would not condemn anyone
As far as not believing it is hereditary I also have no proof that it is not.....( that was just to get your attention:)

OOPS forgive my lame double entry

Answer 1

If it's not genetic than what do you think it is? You think everyone on here just woke up one day and said I want to be a minority and deal with a whole bunch of hatred, freak out my mother just for the hell of it... Oh look this could be fun, lets be gay?


We are what we are, How are you what you are?

Answer 2

Well I'm a bisexual, and I can tell you right off the bat that nothing "made" me become one. I *knew* that I was straight for 13 years--no doubt about it. So it was extremely unnerving to me when I started developing feelings for this flautist who sat next to me in 8th grade band. I tried to rationalize my attraction to her by saying that "maybe I subconsciously wanted to befriend her," which sounds really stupid, I know! Anyway, after a year of this strange attraction toward her, summer came and we both went off to the same high school. Luckily for me, my attraction died, and I thought it was the work of The Lord (I am a Christian and I had been praying vigorously throughout the 8th grade about this).

Well, apparently it wasn't.

Turns out that the following October of my freshman year (2004), I fell hard for this junior in my Italian club. The instant I saw her, something inside of me clicked. I was always nervous whenever I was around her, and much more self-conscious than usual. My attraction for her was only strenghthened by the summer (2005), and in 10th grade, it was all I could do but think about her. Unfortunately, she graduated last year, and crushing blow was the fact that her last day at school (seniors get out a week before everyone else at my school) was my 16th birthday. That hurt so much, you don't know.

I have never felt that way towards anyone--or anything--before her. I believe it is purely genetic, though some people, especially teenagers, choose their sexuality, but it usually balances itself out later in their lives.

I know for a fact that I did not choose this for myself. My mother is a strict Southern Baptist--and a conservative, to boot. She hates homosexuals--she's admitted that--proudly. The rest of my family has, more or less, the same viewpoints as she does.

Why would I choose this?

Answer 3

You might have checked the archives before posting this question. It's only been asked like a thousand times!

Anyway, there have been studies that concluded that gay men's brains were similar to a straight female, and lesbians' brains were similar to a straight man. So it is hardwired into our brains.

All I know is that I have ALWAYS been attracted to men. I'm talking like before I can remember. I was real young when I would see a man on television who I thought was attractive, and I knew I wanted to see him with his clothes off. That was when I was like 6 years old. And No, I've never been molested.

Answer 4

For the Haters:

Gay parents are statistically as likely to have a gay child as a hetero couple. I have two friends who are lesbians and their mothers are too--but get this--neither knew it for years after they came out. One was disowned by her mother for BEING gay, only to be called up five years later when she admitted she did it out of jealousy because, being a JW, homosexuality is a sin. The other's mother divorced her father long ago, but didn't come out until her daughter was well into her twenties and was in an established relationship and she thought her daughter could handle it.

All other gay parents I've met have had hetero children.

Maybe it's chemical. I've seen some studies saying that, at least when it comes to men. Something about not getting enough of some certain horomone when the mother is pregnant. But it's not only humans, it's other animals as well. Check out the zoos. In NYC there are gay penguins, in Israel gay vultures; in my boyfriend's bedroom there are two gay cockatiels (they ignore the female totally).

Answer 5

hate to burst your bubble but i was born gay. i have been gay all my life. i had a wonderful childhood and i grew up to be a beautifully adjusted lesbian... its not a choice. i didn't wake up one day and say... hmmm you know what. maybe i'll be a lesbo. so that i can be discriminated against and spit on and told i am going to hell by "christians." if it was a choice, NO ONE WOULD CHOOSE TO BE TREATED LIKE THIS...

maybe the friend you spoke of was always gay and could not tolerate having to live a lie any more. It is a lot easier to come out now then it was 20 to 30 years ago. A lot of older people come out later in life because they finally feel safe enough to do so. Maybe instead of claiming that homosexuality is a choice, you could examine the reasons why your friend may not have felt safe enough to be herself to begin with...

Answer 6

it's called god, katy. for a VERY long time there was no proof that the world was round either.

that you don't believe that homos are born homo is because you were born hetero.

i don't think it's genetic either, though it might be.

gender roles in our society feel pretty extreme to me, gratuitous you might say. i tend to prefer the company of women that are more masculine (and less helpless), and the company of men that are more feminine (and more sensitive to the feelings of others around them). it's just the way i always remember it being for me.

Answer 7

Nobody really knows why people are born gay. There's no proof that shows why gays are born a certain way or not. People do not choose to be gay, because nobody would ever choose to be hated and on thereceiving end of numerous hatefull and vocious attacks

Answer 8

A combination of hormones, environmental factors, and sheer good luck.

Seriously, who cares? The real issue is not cause but effect...and gay love can have good effects on a life like any other.

Answer 9

you may have made a man or two go gay. and the fact that you don't believe it's genetic means what? How could you possibly know what it's like to be gay I must ask? Were you born that way and you decided to live the easy straight life? If not why don't you go post your biggoted question somewhere else

Answer 10

Why do some people have red hair? Why are some people left handed? Why do some people have brown eyes? We're all born uniquely different and special. It's no big deal unless you have an interest in it.