2006-08-16 11:36:25 · 13 answers · asked by sissi362000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it something you can get past? If you can still live with his past that he lied about then yes you should still marry him. If it's something so horrible then no do not marry him. He might have lied to catch you or he could have lied because he was embarrassed. Good luck.
2006-08-16 11:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you want to be married to a liar. He's shown his character, ignore that at your own peril. Here is some other stuff to consider...
Consider marriage when you have been together long enough to be out of the infatuation stage. When you have discussed ALL the issues involved in life after the wedding like finances, division of household labor, children, in laws, where to live, jobs, time away with friends, and a million other things you haven't thought of. After all of that you consider each part of the vows, and what you consider is the difficult side of them, anybody can be happy when things are going well so,
richer or poorer....still want to be with them in a shack with crackers ala peanut butter for dinner...for the fourth night in a row?
sickness and health...they develop a chronic physical or mental illness and can't get around and can't work, still want to be there?
better or worse...they are in a car accident and you have to spend the rest of your life feeding them and changing their diapers, still want to be married?
keep yourself only to him or her, can you REALLY only have sex with only that person until you die?
THIS is what marriage is, not a fairy tale where everything goes well everyday, the one guarantee you have is that things WILL go wrong. Remember, you answer all these questions after you have passed infatuation, after you know what their bad points are (yes they have some and so do you) and still consider it anyway.
If you think you are up for all of this then maybe you should think about it. Don't forget to consider whether they would stick by you if it was you in any or all of the above scenarios. Check out the question posted here by married people and keep in mind that all of them thought this was the thing to do and the ONE for them when they got married too! There is a book called Lies At The Altar by Dr. Robin Smith, it helps you answer all this and go in to a marriage with your eyes wide open, if you aren't willing to consider all that then what you really want is a pretty ring and a nice party and lots of attention, have them but don't make that a basis for a LIFE. Good luck!
2006-08-16 11:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his past really matters that much to you no you shouldn't marry him because he has lied to you. and you most likely won't ever be able to trust him.. the biggest part of a marriage is trust..and being able to talk about things together.
If you can sit and talk to him about what he has lied about and if it still matters about something in his past then you don't want to go any further. a persons past should not matter. there past isn't what you fell in love with was it.. it was the now and the present.. If someone was to be all upset about my past i would tell them to go away because my past may not be perfect and it is no ones business but mine and the people from my past.. so drop it or get out .. but don't get married if you have doubts about your feelings.
2006-08-16 11:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lied to you now and what about the future. The question is can you really trust him with all your heart. The answer should decides whether u should marry him or not.
2006-08-16 11:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that all depends on you. If he lied about the type of person he is or something that totally changes your views on him then I would say don't marry him because you don't really know the real him. If it's something like small that doesn't change your views on him then I would say to forget about it and marry him! Good luck!
2006-08-16 11:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the lie? I would say probably not - but I certainly give you my definate opinion because you haven't given enough information. It sounds pretty silly to give out so little information. I wonder if you fiancee regardless should be marrying you if you can speak out clearly. Sounds like whether or not you two get married the two of you need to work on communications skills.
2006-08-16 11:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what he lied about but ponder this. If he had told you the truth would you still be with him.? Women always say they want the truth. It has been my experience that when you tell the truth most women can't handle it and the man ends up losing something he cares about.
2006-08-16 11:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If HE is the one that finally told you the truth, sure, but if you found out some other way, and he still does not tell the truth, then no, because he will always be dishonest. Was he too ashamed to tell you, or is he just a lier? That's what you have to determine.
2006-08-16 11:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still not telling us what he lied about. i mean is he really a woman or does he just have 6 toes on one foot. the severity of the lie means a lot.
2006-08-16 11:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
No, no, no, no, no.
Why do you even have to ASK this?
Marriage is built on trust and respect. Lying violates both of those.
2006-08-16 12:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋