I moved 400 miles from my girlfriend for school. I met this girl out here and started talking to her. I broke up with my girl back home and a few days later this new girl and I started dating. My ex is pregnant with my child. She says that she wont let me be a part of this baby's life unless I break up w/my new girlfriend & get things straightened out w/her first or she will raise the child on her own and not put my name on the birth certificate. She doesn't want to send our baby 400 miles to a father that he will really not know and my girlfriend that she doesn't know or trust. What do I do? She has always said that she would take care of her responsibilities. When we were together and made this baby (we were happy), that was before I met my new girlfriend. She has already stated that she doesn't want child support. I am sure this baby is mine. She stated that once this baby is older & if it wants 2 find me, she won't stop him. I have known her since we were 16. She has sent me proof.
2006-08-16 11:31:49 · 7 answers · asked by socalfun_2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She has sent me paperwork from her doc and pics from her 1st ultra sound. She has also offered to take a pregnancy test for me if we meet up to talk.
2006-08-16 11:34:45 · update #1
I am not questioning paternity and when we conceived, we were talking about marriage and kids. Then I met this new girl. My ex got pregnant the last time she came to visit me from California.
2006-08-16 11:37:15 · update #2
She isn't asking for marriage. She states that she thinks we should really try and work things out as a family first and if it doesn't work she an tell this baby later that we tried but it was best that we were apart.
2006-08-16 11:43:24 · update #3
Another thing, she stating that she is having complications. She had a miscarriage 5 years ago and is having problems with this one. I don't want to leave my new g/f and my ex ends up having a miscarriage. My ex stated that she is really scared.
2006-08-16 11:49:45 · update #4
My ex and I have been fighting for a month now. My new g/f and I have been dating for 7 weeks. I found out my g/f was pregnant 1 week after my new girl and I started dating by my ex's friend because my ex was having problems. My ex got sick of the fighting and that's when she gave me the choice above either we work this out as a family 100% w/o new g/f in the pic or I have no contact (unless i go through the whole court battle).
2006-08-16 11:51:57 · update #5
It is your responsibility also. If you don't want to be a part of the babies life, stay with the girlfriend your with right now. It cannot be that serious if your old girlfriend is newly pregnant. I am not saying go and marry the pregnant lady, but if you want to be a part of the babies life you better stand behind her.
2006-08-16 11:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by oceanjen2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I have to say that the options that she has given you are totally the right things to say. She has the right to do what she feels is best for the child, and being a single mother of two girls myself who did the same thing, I suggest that you think long and hard about your decision. She is being civil to you, is willing to meet and talk, and you should take her up on the offer. Child support is nice to have, however, not necessary. She CAN do this on her own. I kept both fathers off the birth certificate, my youngests' dad went to court and did a DNA test to have his name put on. He now has to pay, and gets to visit with her...but has no real rights. You need to be a man, get a good job, and pay her anyway, even if it's not ordered. She is doing everything right. All I can say is, good luck.
2006-08-16 11:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both parents have rights she is probably just trying to get you to do what she wants you should confront her with the fact that unless there is something extremely wrong with you that you will have a right to the child and the rights to visits and that legally if she wants any child support or other assistance that most single mothers apply for that your name legally has to be put on the birth certificate and in order to get assistance the law states that child support must be applied for
2006-08-16 11:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by dolphinluv_75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to blackmail you into doing what she wants. If you don't feel the same about her as you did before, then it would be useless to trying to make it together as a family. You can always get a paternity test if you want to be in the babies life. It is entirely up to you. Try better birth control, unless you want more children running around.
2006-08-16 11:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said "She has always said that she would take care of her responsibilities" um hello!?!? if this is truly ur baby too then it is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY too! what is wrong with you can you not see that? i suggest trying to get back with her and work things out or at least be friends and that way you can have a healthy relathionship with YOUR CHILD. seriously, this is your responsibility. she shoul take child support too if you dont work things out.
2006-08-16 11:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by um yea hi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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girl:
avril kelly emily elly samantha zoe
boy:
danny liam luke daniel stephen
don't whatever you do call him kevin! Theres a paodophile named kevin!
2006-08-16 11:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pregnancy and paternity tests are 2 different tests....
2006-08-16 11:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋