What can I do?

Question

At school, I am quiet and not that out going
I'm always the one who gets left behind.....
elaborating on this...I am always the last person who hears or even gets an opportunity for good grades..and I see all these people bragging about their damn GPA's, their scholarships and their majors
In gym, I am the last to get picked for a game and in one class, my gym teacher failed me cause I "refuse" to play. Nobody accepted me
I know this sounds crazy but I feel left out and all of these popular are getting the better things in life...like the grass is always greener on the other side

I'll admit it, I envy the people who has expensive material possessions

anything I can do....medication, therapy...bible?

psychological problem perhaps?

yes I get good grades

Answer 1

You sound like a carbon copy of me when I was much younger. Years later, I am still a "quiet outcast". I have found that you can't spend your life worrying about this and about what people think of you. You need to accept yourself the way you are. I looked it up on the internet. Ten percent of the human population is quiet. I believe that our Creator put us on this Earth to teach others the lessons of tolerance and acceptance of our differences. Now that I'm much older but still the same personality, others have come to expect me to always be quiet. I no longer need to feel like I need to change myself to please others and to fit in. They say they can't "figure me out"--that I have a sense of mystery about me. I found that I can fit in with others that are the same as me and still be happy. Ultimately, what really matters in this world and in life is not what you have or who you're friends are. You are special and unique. One of a kind. There has never been, or is, or will be another you. Celebrate your individuality. Cherish it. Think about it this way. Those who ignore you, ridicule you, and make you an outcast are the real losers in life. They are like the Black holes of the universe, sucking in darkness but putting out no light. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Feel sorry for them for rejecting you. Be a beacon of light, shining the way for others to accept you the way you are. Those that do are the real winners--for having known you just the way you are!

Answer 2

try something new. I used to be very shy until I went to France on a foreign exchange trip and suddenly everything changed! For the better, I'd say. Talk to strangers you won't see ever again. Just try to initiate conversation. Start off with saying "hi" or "good morning." then Maybe "how are you?" that may help you transition initiating conversation from strangers to people you see every day.

Try not to worry about everyone else. Everyone goes at their own pace. Sometimes I feel like I'm always one step behind everyone else (I started wearing "girly" clothing later, I started to wear makeup later than everyone else etc), but then I just remember that I go at my own pace, and that's ok.

If material possessions make you feel good about yourself, get a job so you can buy some! I don't know how old you are, though, so you may already have a job!

Do things that make you feel better about yourself. Try not to call yourself a loser or stupid or bad names in general. I do it sometimes, sometimes I say "omg I'm SUCH a loser." Before anyone else can learn to accept you, you have to accept yourself. Sounds cheezy, but it's totally true.

This kind of change isn't up to medication, therapy, or even Jesus Christ. It's up to you. It's all you.

Answer 3

I dont want to sound critical but I was wondering why aren't you getting good grades? Are you studying? If you are and your still not getting good grades I would suggest ask help from someone in your class. That way you can become friends with them.
If you want something it's not going to fall in your lap, you have to work for it. You have to participate, socialise.
Practice outside of school playing sports. Work at your weaknesses. NO matter what be yourself. I'm assuming your in high school, and to be honest with you most of those people you wont see after graduation. But since you are surrounded by these people make an effort to befirend someone. Smile.
Befriend someone with similiar interests as you.
Hope this helps, good luck. Do not use medication! Play sports or exercise.

Answer 4

I was quiet and a bit shy in high school - low self esteem is something I can understand - I got over it once I went to university. Basically I said to myself I'm not going to be that person anymore and I just started conversations with everyone I met. Quite quickly I gained the self-esteem and it changed me and my situation. Its hard being the quiet kid BUT you have something those other kids don't - you have the opportunity to beat it. It sounds funny, but the hardest things you have to overcome always make you stronger and better for it. You just gotta say to yourself - who do I want to be - its a choice you can make but I'll tell you again its not easy but its worth it. Just step outside of your comfort zone and if some one grips at you or abuses you about it the whatever. The only person's opinion that really matters about you is your own self-image.

Answer 5

To me the key to fitting in anywhere is the ability to laugh. You may have to lighten up a bit, and not worry so damn much but you will be able to win friends anywhere. I laugh at myself as well as at things that are funny, I am kind to other people, and I stand up for myself if I need to . But, the laughter keeps my head up.

Answer 6

Life is hard enough, don't sell yourself too short.
Your lack of confidence is way too obvious and you let people walk all over you.
Your desire to have and to belong is holding you back.

You are so loved and don't even know it but until you accept yourself, no one else will.

Answer 7

Don't worry, some people have bad school years & grow up to be nice happy adults. I don't know what religion you are, but God always listens :)