She has a champagne appetite while we have a beer income. I'm thinking; what should I do after 37 yrs of marrige? Lots invested in time, effort, and energy, not to mention emotion. All answers will be read! No judgements please.
2006-08-16 10:58:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've read your responsies and I must add that we have had talks on this topic many times. I've gone to counseling and she refused to return after only 1 session. We argue about what we've argued about. Points and counter points, ad in finitum.
2006-08-16 16:11:51 · update #1
Been there done that... no great advice though. I took more control of finances and attempted to keep her on a strict budget, it never really worked, but eventually she just left.
It was a lose lose scenario.
2006-08-16 11:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my mom. My parents are always arguing over it. I suggest counseling and being upfront with expenses to her. Give her an "allowance" (certainly come up with a better word for it lol). Let her have SOME spending money that she can use without questions ask. BUT THAT"S IT. Budget everything else to the dime. And don't do the bills without her. Make her sit and pay attention to whats coming in vs. Whats going out. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-16 11:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mom24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is telling you what she desires from you. Non compliance will bring about harm emotions on her section, this finally ends up in bitterness. Your desires are being met, i assume... feeling specific should not be constrained to events, what does it value you to start up each and every day with an confirmation to her that she is specific to you as a results of fact and fill interior the sparkling. If unexpectedly having outings with you or having marital family members with you replaced into killing her, do you think of that it may be elementary for her to bypass over those issues? of course it does no longer. it extremely isn't any longer meant to be harsh... yet positioned on your huge boy underclothes and make your spouse experience specific. She has come to you in a comfortable thank you to have this desire met. There are 2 of you in this marriage, supply up whining and understand that at last, specific it does develop right into a deal breaker for women. in case you desire to be this emotional individual and you basically do no longer understand how... do this, think of her facet of the mattress empty and her closet emptied and he or she has left you and you haven't any concept the place she is, she has disappeared without a clue, different than for the observe that mentioned, i attempted, I spoke with you approximately this, and you probably did no longer try. i'm on no account coming decrease back, so break up. you may get emotional then... adult males are from venus and girls are from mars... yet no rely... you pays it forward. She desires this from you.
2016-12-17 12:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, I paid the bills in my family for many years. During that time, my husband wrote bad checks, ruined our credit, used a charge card like it was unlimited. When he had to pay the bills and saw the money not coming in and then going out, he was shocked. He attended money management counseling, took over the check book, and learned to say no. We haven't had a collection person calling us for over a year!
2006-08-16 11:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by TLBFH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been together a long time! Congrats on longevity! Soo...seems you two could sit down and have a heart to heart and take a look at a realistic lifestyle according to your current financial situation. If it helps, bring in a financial planner so she takes it seriously.
2006-08-16 11:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her that certain things judt can't be done. Does she work? If not tell her having another income might help her to afford that champagne lifestyle.
2006-08-16 11:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you try getting her to drink the beer quicker, or even pour beer into champagne bottles, just add an alka seltzer tablet before corking it.
2006-08-16 11:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like my mom go see a counsellor
2006-08-16 11:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to counceling! get it all out in the open in front of someone who can help out with it all.
2006-08-16 11:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by blonde0001-999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my wife!!
2006-08-16 11:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by Irishman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋