or is it just unusal to do so? my friend told me that it isn't going to happen for me even though we are engaged now.
and my brother just married his first and only girlfriend in July.
2006-08-16 10:41:26 · 11 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i got my first one at 19.....and my was 18...his first year of college
2006-08-16 10:48:22 · update #1
I think thats marrying your high school sweetheart works in some situations and doesn't work in others, it mainly depends on your maturity level and if you guys are truly 100% committed to each other!
2006-08-16 10:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by Nat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will eventually find yourself wondering what you missed, as will your brother and his wife. Its human nature. That just depends on what you do about it when you start wondering. Forever is a long, long time. Here are some real things to think about before getting married, hope it helps....
Consider marriage when you have been together long enough to be out of the infatuation stage. When you have discussed ALL the issues involved in life after the wedding like finances, division of household labor, children, in laws, where to live, jobs, time away with friends, and a million other things you haven't thought of. After all of that you consider each part of the vows, and what you consider is the difficult side of them, anybody can be happy when things are going well so,
richer or poorer....still want to be with them in a shack with crackers ala peanut butter for dinner...for the fourth night in a row?
sickness and health...they develop a chronic physical or mental illness and can't get around and can't work, still want to be there?
better or worse...they are in a car accident and you have to spend the rest of your life feeding them and changing their diapers, still want to be married?
keep yourself only to him or her, can you REALLY only have sex with only that person until you die?
THIS is what marriage is, not a fairy tale where everything goes well everyday, the one guarantee you have is that things WILL go wrong. Remember, you answer all these questions after you have passed infatuation, after you know what their bad points are (yes they have some and so do you) and still consider it anyway.
If you think you are up for all of this then maybe you should think about it. Don't forget to consider whether they would stick by you if it was you in any or all of the above scenarios. Check out the question posted here by married people and keep in mind that all of them thought this was the thing to do and the ONE for them when they got married too! There is a book called Lies At The Altar by Dr. Robin Smith, it helps you answer all this and go in to a marriage with your eyes wide open, if you aren't willing to consider all that then what you really want is a pretty ring and a nice party and lots of attention, have them but don't make that a basis for a LIFE. Good luck!
2006-08-16 10:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I married my first and only and we've been married for 11 years and have 2 kids. We are more in love now than ever. I think if you love each other and are comitted to each other it will work. Just remember that when things are bad, the grass really isn't any greener on the other side. ( unless it becomes an abusive relationship, in which case you should get out and seek help) Good luck to you!!!
2006-08-16 10:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by messijessi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on the both of you, and how committed you are to each other. And do not forget 10 years down the road how much you love each other. People tend to grow apart later in the marriage. You have to continue to love each other keep communication open, always
2006-08-16 10:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way you word your question makes me say this: in the adventure that they are to not be "allowed" to stay at the same time, how might want to this be dealt with? might want to or not it is a criminal offense? i don't think of it truly is a good theory to stay at the same time instead to marriage, yet I actually do not desire the authorities telling us that we may be able to no longer. it is no longer the authorities's organization. I lived with my spouse for some months formerly we were given married, yet we were formally engaged, and were doing so as form of a "try force." We got here across that we were like minded, so we were given married. That grow to be seven remarkable years in the past. yet back, i don't think of the be conscious "allowed" is suited. definite, we are loose in this us of a. that contains the liberty to do what gained't be in our suited interest, as long as we are no longer hurting each individual else.
2016-11-25 21:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sure not wrong. Sometimes it works. I wish you luck. You're very lucky if you've met the right one so early on. My only advice would be to allow each other room to grow and don't let others interfere in your relationship. I wish you many years of happiness.
2006-08-16 10:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by R. F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. We have been married for 8 years, have three kids, and are happy as hell. It helps that we both like sex a lot. gotta keep things fun in the bedroom though.
2006-08-16 10:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by scotty mayo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it is not wrong. i say good for you, you are one of the few girls that dont s l u t around. i think marrying the first is a very good thing. as long as you love them.. congrats and good luck!
2006-08-16 13:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a very bad idea. You need to know whats out there before you decide to settle down forever.
2006-08-16 11:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did..and I'm loving it! And it's been 10 years.
2006-08-16 10:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Smiles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋