I cannot let go of my first (and only) girlfriend. She lives in a far away country. When i visited her she wasn't as...sparkling romantic as i thought. But maybe we'll make it work. I can stay with her...I never wanted a break up in my life....because i think that's a symptom of american culture, and i don't like american culture. I always thought people like my sister were stupid for always ending relationships that were good and destroying the guy. Now i am giving up on her and i know i'm destroying her. But it destroys me when...dreams i had didn't happen at all. Of course...i need to be with her. I'll be seeing her in Dec. because i have a ticket already. Maybe if i was around her more i could make up my mind.
2006-08-16 10:32:56 · 20 answers · asked by ryan s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cinderella!
2006-08-16 10:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually no. Being 'destroyed' over it is a little dramatic don't ya think? People get over things and move on and if they can't its an indication of some mental issues going on. In this case it doesn't sound like the girl is as interested in this as you are and if thats the case you are fighting a losing battle. Life isn't a fairy tale, quit looking at it like it is. Of course if you had ever been in more than one relationship you would have learned that and everyone should. Your sisters ended their relationships because they weren't happy with them, I'm sure the guys got over it and found other girls, it doesn't really matter how good you thought the relationship was, it wasn't your relationship so its not your call to make. Also you seem to think the relationship you have is a good one and the girl doesn't seem to think so, perhaps your perception and definition of what makes a good relationship needs some rethinking. And LMAO at the maturity lecture from the 17 year old!!!
2006-08-16 17:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my boyfriend and I plan on getting married and we've been together almost 5 years. And I'm only seventeen! First of all, relationships take maturity, and sometimes accepting that fantasies won't always be met. Especially since the other person might have completely different fantasies. Now I'm not telling you to settle for something less than someone who is perfect for you, but there is a huge balance between true love and the fantasies we create in our minds. Real love accepts the reality that sometimes things won't be perfect or even as you imagine. Good luck in your relationship.
2006-08-16 17:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course they can. My parents are a successful story, and they've been together 25 years now.
However, staying with someone just because you don't wanna be like other people is not a good reason. Staying in a relationship that is not working is more damaging than breaking up with them. Breaking up is hard, but it's not impossible. You can get over it and move on. Sometimes it's a good thing. Don't judge people for breaking up.
Also, a long-distance relationship is always going to be tough, especially when you didn't know them very well to begin with. Good luck with that.
2006-08-16 17:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure, since there are with so many people on the planet. I would say take one day at a time though . It is sometimes hard to do with relationships and you may want 2 jump ahead and see the possibilities the future may hold. However u'll loose out on the little things in front of u that make u love someone so much 2 begin with and u'll also stress yourself and strain your relationship possibly. Good Luck! :)
2006-08-16 17:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by SunShine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
??? Why do you feel such a committment to someone you barely know? This makes no sense what so ever. Sorry, but you are headed for a life of boredom if you find her less than "sparkling romantic." What in the world are you doing?
2006-08-16 17:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to my first love for 14 years, then we got divorced, but I also had people telling me not to. I was young and thought I new it all, but I would not change it cause I have 2 beautiful children
2006-08-16 17:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My great aunt started dating her bf when she was only 12, they got married at 16 and have been married for 50 years !!
2006-08-16 17:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by theblonchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew my wife only for 1 month when we decided to get married...she was my only gf and we've been married 12 years..
2006-08-16 17:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by Han Solo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married her. We have been married for 8 years and have three kids. Always make sure you keep in fresh in the bedroom though.
2006-08-16 17:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by scotty mayo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋