My cousin was found hanging in a hotel room...we don't know if it was suicide or if her scum boyfriend did it. I wasn't close to her, I don't even remember ever meeting her, but my mom grew up with her. Her father hasn't spoken to her in a while and doesn't know she's gone, someone has to tell him and we don't know what to do. She was 7 months pregnant and already had 3 children...she was 30 years old. Please give me some advice, I want to help but I don't know what to do.....
I asked this question under another category but didn't really get much advice, so please help!
2006-08-16 10:30:43 · 12 answers · asked by Led*Zep*Babe 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Brittany, why would you report me? I'm not that sicko of a person to make this crap up.....just made a bad day worse, thanks
2006-08-16 10:37:22 · update #1
I would recommend getting a close relative to him to tell him. Don't prolong it, whoever does it just needs to tell him outright. This will be very sad of him, even though he hasn't seen her in a while. Then give him some time, but stay with him. Just don't say anything.
Let him figure out what he just heard, but stay with him. Even though he will probably want that person to leave, people really want others to be with them when they're in pain.
I'm sorry for your families loss. Keep strong.
2006-08-16 10:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by amg503 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her father the truth. That his daughter has died and now, somebody needs to help w/ her surviving children, especially if the boyfriend was scum. Also, these children are the last remaining connection he can have w/ his daughter. So even though he didn't have a chance to mend things w/ his daughter, he may be able to do right through her children.
Regardless, there isn't an easy way to tell him. The person closest to him should tell him about his daughter's death.
Good Luck. +
2006-08-16 10:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by mcmillae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that your mom should be the one to tell him, since she knew her better than you did. She should just call him and tell him she has some "very bad news", tell him gently, and take the conversation from there. We all have to tell people bad stuff from time to time....I know it's hard, but if the person has got to know, they've got to know. Just imagine how awful he would feel if nobody told him for a long time. He needs to know as soon as possible. Surely there is a police report or something that will give him more clues.
2006-08-16 10:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best and .. seems like the only thing u can do is tell the truth. what else is there to do? lie to him or hide the fact that his daughter is dead when he will eventually find out anyway? and when he finds out much later, he would be pretty angry that everyone but him knew. theres no way you can break it to him easily because losing someone is not easy at all. its best that a close relative/loved one of this father to tell him the news. if not, you tell him urself. hopefully her 3 children are being taken care of.
2006-08-16 10:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's awful! Does your family speak with the father? Will her mother tell him? How about her three children? Where are they? Have they printed an obituary yet? Maybe someone could send a copy to her father.
2006-08-16 10:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by sittin tight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several ways to communicate, but in this situation the best way is person to person. You and your mom and some other caring family members should go to your cousin's father house and break the news slowly.
2006-08-16 10:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Brownskin82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible.... just be empathetic I guess, I had to tell a kid his grandfather had died once, that was pretty bad (was on the job). Don't drag it out and be as respectful as you can.
Why in the world would anyone report this? That is MEAN! She needs help!
2006-08-16 10:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be supportive of his feelings. it's a sad thing and it's obviously not a happy time, so what u can do is be there for the family and be sympathetic but think twice about words you say. sometimes people try to be sympathetic and say the wrong things.
2006-08-16 10:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by islandgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That news is NEVER easy to give or get. Just start with, "There's been an accident...... and tell him"
No matter how you prepare it's not going to help when you try and find the words when you are talking to him.
Sorry for your loss
2006-08-16 10:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by ma_zila 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am terribly sorry to hear this depressing story...i dont know how you tell this to a father.
but i cant help but tell you that the correct wording of the phrase is actually hanged. as stupid as it may sound. hanged is correct.
2006-08-16 10:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by plasticrooster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋