My boyfriend has opened up to me about his problem at work..?

Question

I value that he has told me about it as he does not normally talk about his problems with me. He is the kind of guy that he would rather go and watch a match to forget his problem but today he has opened up to me about it. I would like to think that it's because he sees me as someone important? What's the best way to support him? One way I supported him today was that I did not mention to him that I have been feeling upset about him spending more of his free time with his friend than with me. I did not think it was the right time to talk that.

Answer 1

means he now trusts you

Answer 2

It's good that he has opened up; he does trust you more. You are right in thinking it is a bad time to bring up another problem. The best thing you can do is listen. Don't offer a ton of unsolicited advice, but see how much advice he wants. Follow up in a few days about the problem and ask him how it's going.

Answer 3

The best way to support him is to listen, listen and be there for him. Let him be able to vent to you when you are together about the rpoblem at work, and make a plan so he will forget the problem, at the same time you can spend so private time with him.

Answer 4

Good job, Violet, especially the way you supported him by not talking about feeling upset on another issue. I think you're exactly right that he sees you as important.

As a next step, tell him how much you value the fact that he talked about his problem with you, and ask if you can help in any way. Men and women tend to talk about problems in different ways; women share problems to support and understand each other and to feel closer, while men tend to talk about problems in order to find solutions. So he MIGHT be waiting for you to suggest ways to help his problem -- and he might not. So asking him is the right approach; it shows him you're willing to be involved but you're not forcing your involvement on him.

Good luck to you both!

Answer 5

yea

Answer 6

yeah me too