2006-08-16 10:16:45 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nothing wrong with chatting to people online. It depends what you are saying, though, and where you think it's going to lead. Online friendships are good - online relationships are best avoided. If you don't know how to control a relationship, then don't go that way - you could find that you have bitten off more than you can chew.
If you are doing it simply to pique your bf or to make him jealous, you are a very silly girl (but not a bad person - yet).
2006-08-16 10:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have no right to say anything to your boyfriend if you also will do what you're irritated at him for doing. And your relationship, I can guarantee, will not get better in the near future. Sometimes, when your boyfriend has a weakness, you just need to confront him and trust that he'll change, and you need to be the strong one, whether you feel like it or not. I don't think you're a bad person, I just think it's immature. I think your best bet from here if you'd like to salvage your relationship is confess to your boyfriend, and make a pledge with him that neither of you will chat online with the opposite sex, and of course that doesn't usually include messengers if he knows the girls and you approve. Anyways, good luck salvaging it. The only way to go about it is to drop your grudge and your pride, confess, and work towards a better relationship in the future.
2006-08-16 10:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you12?!
Why would anyone with any self-respect try the whole "I'm mad, but I won't talk about it. I'll just act out and be a immature little kid." Suck it up and talk to him - tell him what you did and why. (It hurt, no doubt.) But mostly tell him that it's cheating. Being faithful to each other means setting up barriers to actions that may lead to questionable actions.
If he is so "flexible" in his definition of being respectful of your feelings and of your relationship, it hasn't been a very good realtionship. He doesn't seem to care for you the way you hoped (and SHOULD be cared for).
If he truly sees nothing wrong with this kind of "flexibility" in his moral ethics - what else is his "flexible" on? Stealing is okay if nobody sees? Beating on your partner is okay if you don't leave any marks? Not a path to enlightened happiness or to a healthy 'giving' relationship. Seriously - you both sound like you need to grow up a little. I'm not saying you have to act like "he's the one" - but you do need to draw the line. For yourself respect and for him. Or anyone else you date.
Be strong and be a grown up or you will only add to the "springer-like mentality" of this bad situation.
2006-08-16 10:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Two wrongs don't make a right. The correct thing to do is sit down with your bf and ask why he's chatting with other girls. If you can't have that conversation, maybe it's better to break up.
2006-08-16 10:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but of course depends what your boyfriend was talking about with those girls. Also dont try to do the same thing, im not sure i just dislike it a lot when someone copies someone, to get even with the problem and such. Of course that doesnt make you a bad person, though :)
-Edward
2006-08-16 10:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by cursedconcept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not necessarily a bad person but you need to discuss why your bf was talking to other girls. After all two wrongs do not make a right. Trying to make him jealous is not the way to handle it. If he is doing this for entertainment and you don't want him to you need to tell him.
2006-08-16 10:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by QWERTY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 chatting online? U guys are corny...and whats the point of trying to get back at him?? And what kind of chatting are u both doing anyway? goodness people these days have weird issues.
2006-08-16 10:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by tha gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i really don't thinks it's a big deal. As long as he ain't trying to see that person, but then again i do because why do he have to chat on line when he can talk to you if he wanted to flirt all that and other he would've did that with you. Since he doing it you can to but for the most of it it's like another hobby.
2006-08-16 10:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by mz_liciousness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. Infidelity is a terrible thing to have in a relationship. Both of you need to stop what you are doing immediately, sit down talk things through and decide if you still want to be together.
2006-08-16 10:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by mimalmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you are calling chatting. I'm married and I have female friends I talk to online. There is no sexual overtures, we're just friends. If you are both keeping it platonic, you're fine. If you are chatting with boys and saying what you want to do to them or vice versa, then you have problems.
2006-08-16 10:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋