2006-08-16 10:04:50 · 27 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just in brief:
One angle is that, while guys enjoy being "mothered" (who wouldn't?), they also hate it because it makes them feel inadequate when it's overdone.
The more you try to please him and fulfill all of his desires, the less he's going to see you as a wife and the less powerful he's going to feel as a man.
If he's lazy, he'll just take advantage of you and just feel crappy about himself. If he's got any backbone, he'll probably pull away from you.. but unfortunately then be tempted to go elsewhere for a "woman" because you're the "mother" in his life.
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Another take is this: Some guys enjoy the feeling of power and enjoy having women (and men) do what they want. He's getting you to do what he wants, and he's treating you like a doormat because it makes him feel powerful and he thinks he's in charge of you. It's just an abuse of the power you're giving him.
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I've noticed an inherent desire in many women to please their bf/husbands; they feel like they've failed if he's unhappy or unsatisfied.
This desire, if made a priority, can be destructive for both people. it's not good to make a guy's happiness the priority.
(Instead, think about what will make him a strong, loving, healthy man who can love his family, and then do what you need to in order to support him in that pursuit.)
2006-08-16 10:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For someone to treat you like a doormat, they have to do that with your consent. That means, if you treat him like a king, he will come to expect it. You are teaching him how to treat you. And by you acting like he's the king, you are telling him that he can do whatever he wants and you will just take it.
Start treating him the same way he treats you. Or, you can just talk to him about everything, tell him how you feel. Don't be shy, get a back bone and be firm with him. That's how men learn - be stern.
2006-08-16 10:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must be with a boy and not a man, a real man will treat you like a princess made of porcelain and never like a doormat, my husband has never ever treat me like a doormat, only his princess.
2006-08-16 10:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
For someone to treat you like a doormat, you had to have been lying down in the first place.
2006-08-16 10:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because when men get things they don't have to ask for they start taking it for granted & believe that is the way we should be all the time. Don't lose yourself. When that happens they really start treating you like crap. Stay true to you. If you are not happy stop doing things all the time to make him happy. There are two people in a realationship. Not a king & a servant.
2006-08-16 10:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by twinkle toes 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship, ideally no woman deserves to be treated like a queen, and no man deserves to be treated like a king....Coz you're supposed to be at equal level....If you treat someone like they were superior to you, you'll show how insecure you're and you'd do anything for it...Which is kinda scary if you want a relationship with them
2016-10-21 02:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Nishit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mand friend of mine told me " men treat you hw you allow them to treat you" They are like dogs really or kids they get away with what they can. Treat um mean n keep um keen does work. DFont always be available, dont always answer calls. Be elusive and busy. Make um feel like they have competition and other guys want you.
2006-08-16 10:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by princess s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
CUz men are freakin dumbasses!! seriously don;t treat any man like a king, they don;t deserve it, we women deserve to be treated like squeens, not the other way around
2006-08-16 10:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by bluemoon 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men are spoilt boys. Cause most of their mothers treat like prince's and they expect their wife's or girl-friends to treat them so, like kings. I am trying to keep away from this type of guy, as they don't like themselves as they don't understand why they act this way.They are used to the attention even if its cure as long as its from a mother figure it makes them happy.
2006-08-16 10:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by olga c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think for those females who do, do that. When they treat their man with like a king , make the man feel more powerful with authority and like a king has his peasents who do stuff for them eventually that's how he's goingto start treating her
2006-08-16 10:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by mz_liciousness 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋