I think my husband is cheating how can i be sure?

Answer 1

if you think he is that is bad enough

Answer 2

If he says he's out of town, get the name of the hotel and his room number. Don't rely on the cell phone, and make him tell you and call him there (not that only he won't answer, but you'll know whether he's far away or not). Unfortunately I know this from being on the other end. Also, he'll probably sanitize his computer after each use. Ask him why. It may foment an argument, but...it will be worth it. And, if the cell rings once, and he ignores it, ask him why it does that. If sex has been slow or not at all, and he's not bugging you about it anymore, he doesn't care. He also may be extra nice to you, not the other way around (not regular extra...extra extra...almost patronizing).

Answer 3

Ideally, it would be best to actually catch him in the act. You could try to set a trap. Tell him your going somewhere for a few days (just make up something), and then spy on him. Odds are, if he's cheating, and he thinks your gone, he'll probably bring her to your house/apt. whatever. I know how all this sounds, but I had a friend who thought his wife was cheating on him, and he really wanted to be sure, rather then just accuse her without any proof. It turned out she was having an affair, and his instinct had been right.

Answer 4

Signs of a Cheating Husband
1) He carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
2) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
3) You find a long blonde hair on the seat of his car.
4) You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back.
5) He suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
6) He works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
7) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's home.
8) His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume.
9) You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse
1) He/She shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
2) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
3) He/She has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
4) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer when you are asleep.
5) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
6) You find items of intimate apparel that you did not give your spouse.
7) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy"
8) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
9) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
10) He/She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
11) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
12) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
13) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

Answer 5

Try to rationally consider why you suspect that he is cheating. Think of what makes you suspicious and what makes you trust him and weigh the two. If, after reasoning it out you still think he's cheating, check his phone/bank/credit card records if you can get to them, See if his pay check is going to where he says it's going to. Ask questions about why he's late, offer to join him on errands, just to see if he comes up with answers that are even feasible. Surprise him by showing up to take him to lunch or other unexpected times in unexpected places. Eventually the truth will come out, it always does. My ex accused me of cheating. I was not, have not, would not have. Turns out he was the one cheating and was just trying to find a valid justification.

Answer 6

Are you prone to paranoia on this subject? If you aren't and you have a feeling he is then he probably is. Check his phone numbers, he probably has a cell and although he can delete the records from his call history he can not delete them from the bill. Many of them you can see online. Get the number he calls frequently that you don't recognize then look it up in a reverse directory, or call it (but not from your phone). The guys my husband works with live about 5 hours from the job so they live here during the week and I have helped one of them figure out what was up at home by checking his wifes bill online. We ended up with the guys name, home address and cell and home numbers. But really the point is if you believe he is capable of this your marriage is in big trouble anyway.

Answer 7

Spy on him. Check his cell phone for outgoing and incoming calls. Call the strange numbers from a pay phone and see who answers. Catch him in a lie and check his alibi. Talk to his friends and ask them a loaded question like you know more than you do and see what they give up. Have a girlfriend follow him when he goes out at night. Your only limited by your imagination. Good luck...hopefully your wrong.

Answer 8

Follow your own instincts. If a woman does that - she is never wrong. By the same token - take precautions to protect yourself in the future! Keep your eyes open and make plans for yourself. Then tell him about your suspicions.

Answer 9

Say nothing and watch for the signs. The truth always floats to the surface. If he thinks he is fooling you, he will become more careless and something tangible will show.

Answer 10

There is never any way to be sure. But your gut instinct and woman's intuition is telling what you already know. Most of the time it is very accurate.

Answer 11

trust you feelings, maybe spy around and see. I know asking won't get you the answer but do it and if he gets really mad then he probably is. Is money low, are you having less sex? Those are key answers. Expecially the sex.