I have heard a lot of people say that they were happy having a lot sex and doing all these activities before they had kids, and now that they have had kids it seems like their life has stopped. Is it true that kids take away certain aspects in life? Is it true that kids ruin the sex life? Is it true that kids make things much more complex in relationship? If so, then why do so many people have kids?
2006-08-16 09:45:33 · 12 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you wait a couple years after you are married to have kids then you have time to have all the sex you want...Even after you have kids doesn't mean it gets worse..It is all in how you handle it.........If children are wanted and planned then no they don't and shouldn't take away from anything
2006-08-16 09:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people now a days have kids alot younger than they did in the past. More and more teens are starting to have intercourse and are having children. Teens are not ready to be parents. Yes many people enjoy life when there are not little ones running around, but when the time for you to have kids is right you will know and there wont be any second thoughts.
2006-08-16 09:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lelia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids can definately ruin it. Alot of parents end up putting the kids first above everything else and not taking time to continue to nurture their relationship. They often end up having a stranger for a partner when the kids grow up and become more independent.
2006-08-16 10:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, having children changes everything, including your marriage. Now you don't have the time or energy to devote just to each other and having fun. Now you are tired (especially when the baby is small) and need extra rest. Your priorities change if you are to be a good parent. If both of you change and grow up then all will be fine. If one parent resents the change or is too immature to put the baby before his/her own needs then trouble will arise. Having a child should be the best and happiest experience of your life IF you are ready!
2006-08-16 14:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. We have 2 children and still lead a full life in every way. You just have to learn to balance your time and MAKE time for each other. I think our children have only added to our relationship, not taken anything from it. In my opinion only selfish people would feel that kids ruin their lives and relationships. My husband and I love seeing the world through our babies eyes, watching them accomplish things and grow. We also love our quite times together with just he and I. We never take anything for granted.
2006-08-16 09:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the kids are raised and if they are your own (the couples kids) or step kids.. Step kids can cause a lot of problems.. no matter what age they are..your own kids do when they are young and not sleeping threw the night yet... many a nights interupted by a babies cry.....
2006-08-16 09:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're able to do your self and those youngster a want and flow out. you already know that the toddlers are a burden; it incredibly is a certainty. i'd say that your female buddy is in denial approximately how lots stress toddlers can placed on a courting, exceedingly whilst the different companion has no organic and organic ties to the toddlers. Its lots to ask of somebody else to take on the load of sharing in toddler rearing. toddlers and youthful toddlers are lots artwork and it does not end there-- people joking approximately youngsters making their hair gray has a good number of fact to it. evaluate your self fortunate; you got to play dad for awhile with out having to make the completed dedication that surely siring a toddler would have been. many are not getting to have an ordeal risk at toddler rearing, now you already understand how no longer person-friendly it is. Be authentic to your self, her toddlers and her and allow her comprehend which you will step back for slightly. She additionally needs to take duty for her very own movements and comprehend that having toddlers as a single confirm is confusing sure, yet that she has no top to control others into taking on that burden along with her. Its no longer doing her or greater importantly, the toddlers any stable. the different authentic question which you will pose on your female buddy is that this -- how in touch is she approximately her toddlers and who's around them? while you're green with envy and its popping out in anger on the toddlers, the toddlers will ultimately go through. Why is she allowing her toddlers to be uncovered to this? What else would she enable her toddlers to be uncovered to easily so as that she isn't on my own? final analysis: you are able to settle along with her and depart. probable you 2 could attempt a splash courting on the exterior like the old days and see how that is going -- however the father dedication is a strategies too lots to ask of you and unfair to all of you.
2016-11-04 23:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by derival 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depends if you plan to have kids! well i have 3 kids 1 before i married and my sex life is good and it didn't complex anything and my kids are 3,2 and 3 mons. so everything is good it all depends on the person and if they are ready to be a parent!
2006-08-16 09:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know who you have been listening to. kids are a big part off a relationship the only why that it would mass up your relationship would be if you let it. kids are just the beginning of your life.
2006-08-16 09:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by asking??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its depends on the couples mentality, kids will drive some men off, but kids should not be viewed in that manner in my opinion they are a blessing. thats just my 2 cents though
2006-08-16 09:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by soon2balonein05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋