I never truly thought this would happen to me but my wife stunned me by saying she wants to separate?

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our bedroom into two areas since I snore like a dying hippo- her words. She even recorded it for me. I asked her how she even slept. I'm sad about it, but she says she's sadder. She wants to be in the same room though, some kind of sound barrier. Do you and yours have snoring issues?

Answer 1

I have reported this question for being in the wrong topic, its supposed to be posted under animail bereavement and veterinary care. Also, it contains blasfermey.

If you want us to help you with your marriage, then please have respect for the dead and dying. One hippo is worth a thousand angels in heaven, with those fluttering eyelashes and thunderous thighs slopping around in the mud.

Please tell your wife to reconsider her decision, after all this will have a terrible impact on the kids. I mean where will they know to crawl into bed when they have nightmares (about hippos)? Don't give up, there is hope for every marriage. As for snoring, there is no cure, I'm sorry.

Answer 2

Dude the reason you sound like a dying hippo is called sleep apnea. You really need to see an MD to solve this possibly life threatening problem. What's happening is that as you've gotten older you've gained weight and lost muscle tone in the back of your head. The snoring is a result of all that loose tissue vibrating and rattling about. The Apnea is a result of that loose tissue blocking your airway and thus preventing you from breathing.
There are a couple of solutions
You can lose weight and change the position you sleep in
You can use what's known as a CPAP mask-[ Constant Positive Airway Pressure ]which does work
or you can have good ENT surgeon to perform the "snore be gone operation " which removes all that nasty hanging rattling tissue.
I chose the surgical option, the prospect of sleeping every night looking like a fighter pilot didn't appeal to me at all
Recovering from the operation wasn't the most pleasant experience I've ever had but it was more inconvenient that really painful
Now 5 years later I'm snore free.

Answer 3

Yes we do have these problems,lol. We try to beat each other to the bed room to get to sleep before the other one comes to bed. Guess it wouldn't hurt if we wore ear plugs.

I love reading your questions,lol. You are a very funny man, your wife has got to love your sense of humor! The way you start off with your questions, it sounds like one thing and then it turns into something so funny and I start laughing like crazy. I wish there was more of your type on here instead of the real sickos that are here. You ought to ask some of your questions in family as well. Keep up the good work!! lol

Answer 4

You are in end-game. Its almost game-over. Just wait. In retrospect your marriage was over with before it began. It was all over except for the dying. =( You are never going to trust him again. He is never going to trust you again. A relationship that exists only when there is trust is never going to have trust again. He is lying, and running from you. You are pursuing him - chasing him. This is a classic "pursuer-pursued" relationship. He cant stop running away until you stop chasing him. Read "A Lasting promise" and pay attention when they talk about the 4 relationship killers, and how many thousands of couples over how many decades their data comes from. The pursuer-pursued relationship is a marriage-killer. Read about the only solutions that work. You can't change another person. He gave himself over to the stuff that he is addicted to. He can no more free himself from this stuff, than an alcoholic can stop drinking. It has captured the seat of his motivations. An immense deep wound drives him to his behavior, and he drowns his pain in his addiction. Until he can face the pain without the drug, and he can face the fear of feeling the pain, he cant stop doing what he is doing. It sounds like you have a rough road in front of you. I really dont envy you that road. Im sorry that you have to walk it, and I wish you didn't have to. You can't unmake your choices. You cant go back and take it back. Time is something too big to fight. No human being has ever won there.

Answer 5

Same thing happend with me! Everyone in my family is the same way it is really bad!! One of my brothers had to use a CPAP machine for a while because of his sleep apnea, but we finally found the answer to stop snoring and it is awesome!! It is a custom fitted mouthpiece that we purchased on http://www.prosnore.com it really works good and my brother doesn't even have to use his CPAP anymore!! IT IS AWESOME! GIVE IT A TRY!! PROSNORE.COM is the place!

Steve

Answer 6

Go to a sleep center and have a sleep study done. You may have a bigger problem than just the sounds. You may have to sleep with a machine on, but it will hopefully stop the snoring and you can still cuddle your wife. Good luck, I also snore like a grizzly. :~)

Answer 7

I have been told by more than one person they have not heard anyone snore as loud as I, and it never resulted in any kind of barrier between us...so I think your wife is trying to be sensitive about other inadequacies in the bedroom and just can't stand your aas anymore...he he he.

Answer 8

You amaze me truely. I am lucky in that I don't have to many problems with hubby snoring. When I do, I just nudge him till he stops, which is when he wakes up. Then I just make him happy that he woke up. We both get what we want out of it that way.

Answer 9

It only seems to happen when hes on his back, so if he snores & wakes me up I shove him over, and he gets the hint!


Have you been diagnosed w/ sleep apnea?? LOL

Answer 10

that's actually really funny. my suggestion to you is researching some medication against snoring [it really exists] and let your partner know. that way she'll be all excited that you really do care and you're doing something to prevent it. really bad snoring is not healthy and needs to be fixed.