Ladies, would you like to live a married life where the man makes the decisions and takes care of you?

Question

I mean like back in the 50's when life was so simple. I dont mean live the simple life but just live the marriage life the way it was. based on todays high divorce rate, dont you agree something is wrong with the status quo?

Answer 1

I would love to live that way, I do not want to be controlled, but to be taken care of..

Answer 2

Absolutely! Let's revert to the 50s mentality only the men can stay at home and "make decisions" about what brand of furniture polish to buy and "take care" of all the drudge work.

But you're right on one count: something is WRONG with the status quo and that's the simple fact that some of you men can't get over the fact that the balance of power has shifted. This is a GOOD thing! It is not going to change other than to continue along these lines. Get over it. Stop crying about it and adapt, or better yet, EVOLVE!

Answer 3

Excuse me but you are delusional! Life wasn't simple, it wasn't leave it to beaver. It was that women were completely dependent on and controlled by the men. I saw an actual reprint of an article from a good housekeeping (i think) magazine about how to be a good wife back in the 'simple' days. It honestly said do not question him about where he was no matter how late he is and pretty much said straight up he's allowed to persue other 'things' outside the marriage and when he gets home, whenever that may be you rush to the door with his drink in your hand and give him his dinner without so much as a word about the perfume he smells like. It was a little less blunt than that but that is exactly what it said. Sounds like a nightmare to me. It would only be simple if you were a blow up doll that didn't think or feel or care what happened to you, that won't ever happen with humans. Not to mention that you wouldn't ever feel true love for that person because the best thing about that is the choice you are making to continue being with that person, they had no choices, if they left they were helpless and considered out casts by society and that does not foster a real 'love' relationship. That made them more prisoners than wives. Besides, if it was so great it wouldn't have changed now would it?? The fact is it was great for men, it stunk to be a woman then though, they were essentially forced to put up with whatever a man wanted to do to them and shut up about it. I think that is the definition of hell.

Answer 4

I think that back then women were made to stay in situations in which they were not happy or even abused. They usually had no say in things, because they were not the wage earner for the family. I don't think of my self as a hard core women's libber, but I am glad that women have the resources now to get out of an unhappy or potentially dangerous marriage. I agree though that there is a high divorce rate, but I think that stems more from people wanting a quick fix and instant gratification, and not wanting to take the time to work things through. Parents today are no longer teaching their children the importance of values and respect that they once did. Too many children are being raised with a minimum amount of parental supervision and intervention.

Answer 5

You mean back in the 50's when we'd start drinking a manhattan or a martini beginning at noon and be totally sloshed by dinner time? Back in the 50's when we didn't have access to a car and the best job we could get was one of a typist, telephone operator, or short order cook? Back in the 50's when we had to do housework in a dress and apron while wearing high heels? Back in the 50's when a girl only went to college to catch her dream man? Back in the 50's when birth control wasn't available and a woman would mother six children before she reached the age of 25? Oh yeah... let's all go back to the 50's. Wouldn't that be a lot of fun? Pleeeeeeeease!!

Answer 6

So you think letting men be controlling would decrease the divorce rate? Moron. The divorce rate is so high for lots of reasons, people getting married too young, getting married too soon, not working on the marriage just giving up. Who said life was simple in the 50's? Dont believe everything you see on TV. Leave it to Beaver was not real BTW

Answer 7

Yes, My Grandfather took very good care of his family he went to school and graduated from Howard University with a degree in engineering and worked in the Pentagon. He had it to where my Grandmother didn't have to work, but she wanted to so before they came to D.C she was a school teacher and when they arrived to the District she was an underwriter/proofreader for president Truman and this was such a big deal because we're black...After they had their first child my grandfather insisted that his wife stay home and she did... they went on to have three kids.. My mom says that they lived a life like the Cleavers (Leave it to Beaver) and she is very proud of that..Later in life when their kids were adults and they had retired my grandfather opened his own welding business and my grandmother opened up her own beauty salon...They were pretty wealthy..So I agree with you if you have a husband that is wise enough to hold down the family then I think that is a beautiful thing...but you cant suppress your wife treat her like an equal and maybe the divorce rate wouldn't be so high...My husband takes care of me but I want to work, but I don't have to...and I really appreciate the fact that I don't have to punch a clock..... I wish more men thought like you...

Answer 8

Nope. I don't think people were any more happy with their marriages back then...it was just less socially acceptable to get a divorce. So people just lived with their unhappy marriages. I can't imagine a woman (myself included), or anyone for that matter, being happy just being taken care of and not having a say in their life decisions.

Answer 9

Actually the only real difference between the two times is back then women made all the decisions but only made the man THINK he was making them. They were passive aggressive back then.
Now women no longer cater to a man's ego and make it known that they make all the decisions so the men rebel and that is why we have such a high divorce rate.

Answer 10

I wouldn't want to live in a married life where my husband makes all the decisions, I mean yes he can make the decisions, but at least he should put my input on his decision into consideration, I don't want him to make the decision on his own without telling me about it. On the day you got married, you're united as one, so therefore the decisions have to be talked about between eachother, and come up with the best decision, if he never talk to me about his decisions that means he doesn't love me, I'd want him to take care of me, but at least talk to me about something before he makes the decisions.

Answer 11

My man does take care of me, but we make all decisions together. I think the divorce rate is so high because people are so busy working and trying to get "STUFF" that they take each other for granted and don't communicate like they should.