What should I do?

Question

I'm in a long distance relationship and we lived together for 4 months and then he went back to his home state. I thought I would be able to do the long distant thing again, but I'm not so sure now. Lately I've been very short with him and not wanting to be bothered. I still love him, I'm just not sure I'm in love with him. What should I do?

Answer 1

As corny as it sounds, follow your heart. If you feel that you may not be in love with him, then you aren't. It will hurt for a bit, but I would maybe suggest taking a break from eachother to find your real feelings. You are probably fed up with the whole long-distance thing so that can affect how you feel about him. Long-distance relationships rarely work- I've had one and he was a great guy, but the distance was just too much.

It's hardest when you have those moments when all you want is to hug that person or give them a kiss but you can't until some time in the future.

My best advice would be to try testing the waters and see what else is out there- if he's the one, you'll know that in your heart and you and him will do whatever it takes to make it work.

Answer 2

Go out and live your life, date, dance, have fun. If he comes back into town and you get all a twitter then the distance hasn't hurt any. But don't be ashamed if absence makes the heart forget in this case... it happens . Just because you're taken doesn't mean you have to sit home and pine away for the guy. Say nothing, missed calls, tell him you went out. I wouldn't jump into dating romantically yet, let the thing cool a while first

Answer 3

Take some time and date other people that live closer to you. A long distance relationship is a hard thing..you need to see where your heart is.

Answer 4

All you can do is try and your doing that...your finding out that it doesn't work for you anymore, so either figure out if your going to close the distance between the two of you or go in separate directions...I'd make the decision sooner than later before things end on bad terms.

Answer 5

If your not sure about the relationship then you need to end it. Long distance relationships usually don't work but it is worth a try. Talk to him about the situation.

Answer 6

it seems you already know what you should do, you're just too scared to do it. if you can't do the long distance relationship, then don't. obviously once you had him for those few months living together it's harder now to let him go. getting short tempered with him is a definite sign you are not pleased.

Answer 7

I was in a long-distance relationship for more than a year. It was great at first because I could still live my life without having to answer to someone for my every move.

Then, it became that seeing each other every 6 weeks wasn't enough. He couldn't leave LA, and I couldn't uproot my kids and move that far from their dad.

So, we parted as friends, but that's it.

Answer 8

Ask him when the next time your going to see him and if its anytime soon it should work out, but if not then i think you should try to move on. Plus just have a long distance relationship requires more trust than ever and its harder to manage.

Answer 9

In my opinion, long distance relationships never work. You can do things to see each other more frequently like every other weekend alternate going to see each other. But I doubt if even that would last long.

Answer 10

Long distance relationships never work, how do you know what the other person is doing?