am i a lesbian?

Question

i have a problem ... whenever i see a guy or girl walking past or something, i always seem to check the girl out, not the guy! i dont see myself having a bf, but when i like a guy, hes gay! i use to think i'll never be a les but as the years went by, i found that guys checked me out a lot and i felt really uncomfortable, but when i looked at girls, they were always nice and sweet, pretty and delicate. Same with gay guys. I could never be a lesbian cos i think its wrong (for me) and i DONT want to be one!

thank u guys 4 all the answers! helped me out in some point of view :D

Answer 1

I think you're overanalyzing. Male + Female is by nature. You aren't gay.

Answer 2

There are many possibilities. You may be gay. You may have the genetic makeup that you naturally crave the attentions of and are attracted to the same sex. But you think it is wrong though. A question for you is do you ever get the butterflies with guys. If so then Bi is what you may be. Never forget that no matter what sex you have personal interests in, that doesn't define you as a person. Do feel it is wrong due to religion, or is it your parents that you think would not understand, or do you just personally have a problem with it? My best friend right now is a lesbian. She was my girlfriend for a while though because we are very much alike and we love each other. But no matter how much we love one another, she is attracted to women and I accept that and life goes on. If you are gay, and I'm not telling you that you are, you have to figure that out for yourselfe, then denying that part of you will only cause you mental problems in the long run. Know thyselfe and embrace every part of you. Make some good friends and enjoy your life, because that is what really matters. I hope this helped a little. Be strong and honest.

Answer 3

I'm a girl who's been happily married for 6 years and when I walk past a couple I too check out the girl, that is who we have to compare ourselves to. No I don't think that makes you gay. But you are inside your own mind. Do you feel an attraction to women or just an appreciation for all things girly, pretty and delicate. Look more inside yourself for an answer and have you tried dating men? If you have no real experience, try out a date or two. That might help also.

Answer 4

I have gay and les friends and I am a crossdresser.I don't know how old are u .If u r young in late teens or early 20;s your sexual preference is not fixed. it can change.There are a lot of girls looking at girls for other reasons.The way she dress. the hair the make up the hand bag etc. There more girls looking at me when i cross=dress in the mall or street. and nobody look at me in men's clothing. There is a web site to check your sexual preference go to calgary gay and lesbian web site and scroll thru' some of those links it is free. Ifound out that I am not gay and do not want to have a sex change /I am just a crossdresser

Answer 5

You really need to be honest with yourself. Why is it so bad if you are lesbian? I check out the women too, but I'm married. I don't think most men are as attractive as women. Hardly ever do I see a good looking man. Just cause you look doesn't mean anything but you do need to question yourself on where do your true feeling lie? Do you feel more sexual feeling for a women than a man? I'm bi-sexual so I feel for both. Maybe you need to experiment to find out how you feel. Maybe you just like soft guys and there are some out there. No matter what, you need to just go for it and maybe then you can sort out your feelings. Try going to a gay bar one night. It just might help. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

i think you are just curious what people look like and if you can compare to them. I think you are confused obviously or you wouldn't be asking such a question. If the event that you are then you are there are support groups that can help you deal with this situation. You could be Bi sexual. That or you just like to look at different people. There isn't anything wrong with another woman looking and seeing that another woman is delicate or pretty etc. I am sure that you will find your place in life. The main thing is to be happy with yourself and not ashamed of who you really are. IF you think you are experiment you might not be at all and lyou might find out you really are. But i really think there are attitudes that mesh better with certain people ;) -

Answer 7

first off if you are I am not sure you can change that. You may check other girls out because of an envy of something they have that you don't-maybe nicer clothes or a nicer hairdo at the time etc. Just because you like a gay guy doesn't mean you are gay too. That's not the way that works. You just might be attracted to the "sterio typical sensitive guy"

Answer 8

I have that same problem too! I always want to check the girl out first! Oh wait, I'm a guy...

No, what you're going through is very natural. Everybody faces the big question at one point in his or her life... but it's normal. It's not wrong to be either way, so keep your options open.

Answer 9

no yr not u prbably like girls because u conect better with them u check out girls because u just want to c if u measure up and want to know what kind of girls guys dig u get uncomfortable when a guy check u out because 1 u don't like that guy 2 yr not into thoes kind of guys or 3 yr nervous hope i helped don't worry yr not a les

Answer 10

Being uncomfortable around guys could actually mean you like them. And it's okay to admire girls that way. I used to worry about the same thing, but then I tried to think about whether or not I actually liked girls, if I would want to go out with them or do anything with them, and realized I wouldn't. Just think about that. And if you do like girls, it's totally okay.

Answer 11

WEll does the thought of you being with a guy disgust you or leave you questioning? Then picture yourself in a relationship with another girl. If you feel comfortable being in a relationship with a girl then that means you can accept that fact then that means your a lesbian. If not then your not