Yesterday I went to a party for a friend of my parents. There were five other people my age and the rest were adults. When my friend, who I've known for eight years, arrived she said hi to me and then ditched me to talk and hang out with her other "friends", who she's known for a little bit and who are slightly older than us. She asked me once to hang out with them, which could've been because her mom made her, but I made up an excuse. I don't like the older people and I don't know them very well at all. I'm not comfortable with them and I don't like them, and my friend is really comfortable and likes them. They were really comfortable with each other because they're good friends and weren't engaged in anything like polite convo. I felt snubbed by my friend and I thought it was pretty clear that she preferred their company to mine, so I was alone the entire night (there weren't any people to make friends with) Is it too much to ask for her to not ditch me? What should I do next time?
2006-08-16 09:13:12 · 26 answers · asked by ~*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like you are young, self conscious and needy. Don't be a drag. You have to make an effort...people are not going to single you out and kiss your feet . if they see you are wrapped up in your own feelings...they'll bolt. Here was her chance to chat with another group and you felt lost...not her fault. Make an effort...you might find you will enjoy being with and listening to others. Know that the world is not going got revolve around you. Good Luck.
2006-08-23 06:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a bit pride. Don't make her aware how her behavior affected you...unless she asks. She clearly outgrew you at this point. You both are not compatible as friends anymore. Don't ever put yourself in that situation again. If I was you- I would have left that party, since as you said there was nobody else you could make friends with. Don't give up on finding friends you feel comfortable with....it's time to widen your horizon. What are your interests? Do you love to dance? Enroll in a dance class...or something. Find like minded people that way. You might even meet older people that you feel comfortable with, because they have the same passion like you. Forget about that friend of eight years for now. She isn't making you feel good about yourself. Find other people who will.....it may take time, but make some effort. Good luck.
2006-08-24 04:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect anyone to light up your life in a party. You have some responsibilities to make that party a nice one for yourself. If you can't stand these people, tell your parents to leave you with your grandparents or aunts when they go to places like that.
Or ask your parents to allow you to take a friend whom you know will pin on to you all night - boring?
I think you should start becoming more social and picky. Afterall it is only a night out. If you promise yourself you are going to have a good time no matter what, I am sure you will find it. But stop feeling that everyone has to drop their conversation and make you feel welcome.
You know many girls can be shy too. So stop focussing on others. Show interests in others and I believe you will find someone who will return that interests.
2006-08-24 02:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by joeblog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, so I am not sure what "older" really means. But these newer 'older' friends of hers might make her feel cool, or more grown up. She should NOT be ditching you for them. By doing so, she is proving that she is NOT grown up at all. True friends should not do things like that. But we are all human, and we do things that aren't always nice.
You can tell her it makes you feel bad, but be prepared for her to do it again. It is a reflection on her, not a reflection on you.
If it does happen again, see if you can find someone else to talk to. You may simply need to make some new friends if she is going to continue to treat you like this.
2006-08-24 07:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by webjanet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its doesn't matter that her friend was old,young,new blah blah..
Its matter when she ditched you,what kind of friend is that,there is no term for a friend like that ,but there is term for a person like that,B***H
There shall be no next time with her,friend will always by yourside without asking,if she prefer to hang out with them which she think is cooler,let her be
Why bother of having a friend like that?Do not ask her not ditch you,you are a much better person than her,why need to beg her for her company?Mix with friend that is worth the term of a friend.
2006-08-22 12:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tit For Tat.Thats what according to me you should have done.becoz now this is become very common nowdays.Some friends take us for grnted thinking that they can fool around us how ever they like.Now what you can do is just speak to her and ask if there was any reason for her to do like that or what if she comes up with a valid reason they go ahead. but if she just tries to beat around the bush telling you some scrap then tell her how bad you felt and please ask her to tell if she really dont want to continue this friendship then please tell it out and lets put an end to this.There is always a saying in friendship as well as love.never love a person whom you love but love a person who loves you,and it is true .
2006-08-22 05:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by priyaedesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she really your friend?
When i was maybe...16 years old, my friend would always go to our senior and leave me alone at lunch. I hated it. So, what did i do?
Make new friends.
That's right, go join a club. Something that you are passionate about and make new friends who really treat you as their friend.
Remember this particular friend of yours and don't ditch any of your new friends. Be there for them and make them feel welcome.
Good luck!
2006-08-24 02:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by shopaholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! i'm in this same top difficulty. however the best subject that i will show you how to comprehend is to take a seat with your buddy and function a one-on-one communique and tell her the way you sense and why you reacted the way you probably did. yet do no longer enable it exchange right into a brilliant argument when you consider which will purely make concerns worse. So, purely refer to her and enable her comprehend howdy.
2016-10-02 04:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not, it's not too much at all. Real friends don't ditch you. Next time, pull her aside and tell her that it upsets you when she ditches you. If she gets defensive, move on. You deserve better friends.
2006-08-16 09:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so mean that she ditched u i would try to make friends with them because she's your best friend and u want to play with her
2006-08-22 20:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋