My husband and I have been together for 2 years I love him but we have had problems in past, we got in argument and husband left out
we have kids together. He still is intimate ever now and then and gives some money to kids but when I ask him if he is sure he wants to have a divorce he never gives me a straight answer he acts as though he is confused. But he does not want to come back home right now it has already been a month and a half and I love him I don't know what is his heart any more to many mixed signals. When I ask him when he is going to file for divorce he changes subject?
2006-08-16 09:06:08 · 11 answers · asked by crystallynbell82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has the best of both worlds now. Lovemaking and very few obligations. Stop having sex with him. Then ask him. If he still waffles, make an appointment with a marriage counselor and drag him to it. He can decide to fix the marriage or to end it. (If he won't go, you should end it.)
2006-08-16 09:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is tough and something I have been experiencing the last year. However, the difference is this. I am now divorced. It is tough. Don't bring up the divorce word just see if you can make time to talk about your problems and work through them. He may be confused and not want to hurt you. Chances are he is really miserable and doesn't want to instigate by starting the paperwork. I am still in love with my exhusband although he is very vindictive and malicious toward me and does a lot of mean things so all I can do is hope he realizes one day what a good thing he lost and what he put our children through. We were married 13 years. I wish you the best of luck as I have felt your pain. It is hard to see them come and go.
2006-08-16 09:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by katz26911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Present to him him the same doubt you have posted here, and be sure to include the part where you say you love him. Wouldn't hurt if you told him you don't want to lose him. You two have to sit down and have a calm conversation with each other, try to remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place. Just do your best to not allow that conversation to turn into an argument and avoid ever raising your voice so that you can calm him down if he does instead of just making it worse. All (or at least, most) couples have problems and issues, it's just a matter of recognizing them and that the bad is something they should accept if they want the good that comes along.
2006-08-16 09:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ricardo P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's two-timing you i bet. stop giving him sex...my goodness woman. when you allow for him to come and go like that you are condoning his behavior as being perfectly fine. tell him what he's doing is NOT ok with you. use your common sense. he should be at home with you...his wife and your kids.
just because you had an arguement is no excuse for him to leave the house. he is a big joke. no way would i tolerate a man's behavior like that. and be careful because IF he is cheating on you with someone else, or others, he could be bringing home some kind of STDs to you and you have your kids to think about.
tell him to either grow up, come home and be a man and take care of his family and the 2 of you can go to some kind of conselling or get the divorce and stop looking for pity because your not giving him any pity. he is such a joke.
2006-08-16 09:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by Leicha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he has made up his mind and is only taking advantage of you. Why don't you file for divorce and ask for support? It may not feel like it now, but there are others out there you can meet who you can love. It will be hard for a while, I know, but in the end it can be for the best.
2006-08-16 09:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by mac's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may really just be confused and taking time to sort things out and not make a hasty decision. Even when you want a divorce it can still be very difficult to go file!
2006-08-16 10:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has a little girlfriend on the side or something. Well, at least he didn't cheat on you with her, well, I guess if you and him are still having sex, I guess he kind of is cheating on both of you. Well, just be patient. I know it's hard for you to go through, but just go with the flow and go on with your life. Hopefully it all works out for the both of you. Good luck.
2006-08-16 09:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you aren't putting your life on hold while he figures out what he wants...It is time he acted like an adult and make a decision
2006-08-16 09:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is trying to sort his feelings, that may be why he is away from you, but im sorry i would not know, and something tells me he wants to be with you, but he is sorta trying to figure things out, sorry if this didnt help
2006-08-16 09:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex with him....he isn't being faithful. Stop the sex and you'll get a straight answer.
2006-08-16 09:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋