very important question about pregnancy?

Question

this is a true story, this is my first pregnancy, i'm 21, and i haven't told anyone about it, i didn't tell the father cause he was cheating on me and just had another baby around 6 weeks ago. it's not like i'm be embrassed cause i'm 21 and i have a very good job in computer information and i have my own apartment. i just didn't tell anyone, how do you guys think i should tell my mom, dad and brothers. the worse situation is that i was sneaking around with my babies father he is my brother's friend, and they didn't now. i do love him even though he treated me wrong, i don't want my brothers or mother to be mad at him. what do yall think i should do. i mean i do have to tell them, causae my due date is in nov, i don't think i can hit this anymore

Answer 1

The best thing you can do is just tell them. Straight out and simple. The longer you hide it the worse it will get because they may feel bad or think things such as you felt you could not come to them...and you don't want them to feel like they did anything wrong. As far as the baby of the father goes I would forget about him..once a cheater always a cheater but at least you are getting this beautiful baby from him. Be thankful for that and accept it and just tell them..once you do you will feel a huge wave of relief.

Answer 2

I think that you need to tell your family as soon as possible since without them knowing you will not be able to really enjoy your pregnancy. You obviously love your baby and even though your parents might be upset I'm sure they will understand and they will love you and the baby no matter what. They will be mad at the baby's father and that is understandable since he betrayed the family trust. If he is a good father they will accept him again little by little into their lives, if he is not well then he is not really worth your time. Just never talk bad to your baby about his/her father or allow anyone to do so. When the baby grows up he/she will realize who that person really is and make his/her own decisions about him but he/she would not have been affected emotionally by listening to bad things about the man that put him/her in this world. Something else you have to understand is that a father is not the man that puts the sperm there to produce a baby, a father is the man that is there for that baby, later on a toddler, to preteen, teen, years and adulthood so if you are not with the baby's father but find a man that loves you and your baby you can still have a beautiful family and the baby can have a positive male role model. If you don't find your prince charming I'm sure that the uncle will step up to the plate and take him/her to the baseball/softball little league games. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Even if you don't tell the father, definitely tell your family. I just read an article yesterday about a 21 year old girl who didn't tell her family and tried to drive herself to the hospital. Long story short she wrecked the car and got stuck in it, and had to have the baby in the car! Luckily they were alright, but you might not get so lucky.

Besides, how do you expect to hide your child from your family? It is not like you are prego for 9 months and then it's the end of the story! You bring another person home with you, and they'll be with you for the next (hypothetical) 18 years.

Answer 4

You need to sit them down all together and have a family meeting. Explain to them not to be mad you are grown and you can take of the baby. But before you tell anyone tell the father. He has the most right to know.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

you need to tell them. They will probably be shocked and upset at first, but imagine how worse it will be if you wait until the week before to tell them? you need to tell them sooner rather than later. They probably will dislike the baby's father because to be honest he sounds like a louse. If he cheated on you, you need to have more self respect, don't give him the time of day. How will you ever be able to trust him again?

Answer 6

I know what your going through. I got pregnant when i was 15 and was to scared to tell anyone. But eventually its very hard to hide that your carrying a baby around with you. What i did with my family is that i wrote each one an indiviual letter. Explaining to them everything in ways each one could relate to. 3 yrs late my family loves my little girl, and couldnt imagine their lives without them. You have to remember boyfriends come and go but your family is there forever.

Answer 7

whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Be fearless you will feel better or if this guy really cares ask him to tell them doesn't sound like hes to great of a guy don't think someone can disrespect you because you have a child together respect yourself and make him respect you too!!!

Answer 8

God Bless honey, it'll be fine. Mothers love their daughters no matter how much they yell at you.. :) Tell her first, let her help tell your dad.

If they hate him, hey, he sounds like a loser, who cares. Time for him to step up and be a man and a father instead of a sperm donor.

Answer 9

Okay who cares if they get mad at him he was cheating on you! You really need to let them know because it is going to hurt them that you didnt tell them. I'm superised that noone has caught on yet.................. Go ahead and tell them if you arent embarrased and what is the most they are going to do?!?! They will get over it and you are going to need your mom there for you!

Answer 10

i'm wondering how you are due in november and not showing. though i didn't come out with my second until i was 8 mos. but i was wearing dance tights and somemore.