Hi, I've been trying with my boyfriend for about 3 months now to have a baby. I know 3 months isn't long, but I'm getting a bit worried. He has children from a previous relationship, so i'm assuming all is well on his side. I'm 19, young but seriously not naive and have thought about the pro's and con's of having children very carefully. I'm just wondering how long it took some of you to concieve, and if there's anything I can do to increase my chances? Thanks in advance for taking the time to answer... T x
2006-08-16 08:55:09 · 9 answers · asked by Laydee T 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Just for the sake of answering Armt girl.. Number 1. People don't stay together because they have children, heloved her, and she cheated on him. Just so you know why they arn't together... Also.. To feel secure with someone I really don't think you need a certificate to show that, also just to clarify.. He see's his children everyday and is an active father. If we split it'd be because we didnt get along anymore.
Also all being ok on his side, since we havent had any tests (being only 3 months into trying) how can it be as simple as "it is or it isnt"??? Your comment made absolutely zero sense.. It actually just kind of shows u jump and make assumptions rather than try and help someone who's looking for advice rather than critisizm?..
2006-08-16 09:13:02 · update #1
go get a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive. My Doctor recommended it to me and after 1 year of trying I got the book. It worked the very next month. It turns out that my timing was wrong due to mis-information. I hope it helps you, too! It's not only about getting pregnant. It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths!
2006-08-16 09:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go back and look at your priorities first and look at the fact your BF has other kids from someone else. You need to make sure you have lived your life and it would be best that you and him get married because if he is not with his other children's mother(s) then there is a chance he may leave you too. Take that into consideration. I would never want to be with a man who has kids already and we are not married...why because for the simple fact in the back of my mind I am wondering why he is not with his children's mother(s). You only knew him for 3 months, that is too soon to be saying to yourself you want a baby with this man, you need to find out if he wants a baby with you. You say you assume all is well on his side...you either know or do not know. There should be no maybe to this matter. If he loves you then he would marry you and then have kids since apparently he did not marry the first girl. You better think about it.
2006-08-16 16:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are too young to think about having children.
Second you are not married.
Third you have been only trying for 3 months. Some people it take years to get pregnant.
Why are you in such a hurry.
2006-08-16 16:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Emily J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it took about 8 months to conceive our first and then with the second 2 months, that one i miscarried at 10 weeks. then with my 3rd pregnancy it took 7 months, and now i am pregnant for the fourth time and i am six weeks along and it only took 1 month. so as you can see it varies. oh and just in case anyone is wondering yes they all have the same father and i am married.
2006-08-16 16:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by beautiful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 - l month
25- 2 months
now at 27- it has taken 3 months but I won't be able to find out if I am pregnant until the end of this month... Good Luck
My advice to you is save as much money you can now.
2006-08-16 16:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really get to know your body to understand when you are fertile. you could try keeping a chart by using http://www.fertilityfriend.com
it takes a healthy couple up to 12 months of trying before it's considered a medical problem, so you still have a bit to go! I think you just need to learn when to time intercourse so you are not missing ovulation! good luck.
2006-08-16 16:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give it at least a year. If your not pregnant after that amount of time I recommend you see an infertility specialist.
2006-08-16 16:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by supermom05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
took me three months to talk my husband in to i took some kind of pill with my first child
you should try that
2006-08-16 16:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by star 101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO motherbliss.com and look up conceiving/ovulation...this chart could help u..
2006-08-16 16:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋