ok, long story short..my ex of 2 year dumped me 3 months ago because he wanted to be single. well two weeks later he started dating a 15 year old (he's 17) and lives 3 hours away.I haven't talked to him for almost 3 months. Im still upset about it. Today was my first day at school and we didn't talk or anything to each other. I acted like I wasn't upset about him breaking up w/ me, didn't look at him, and laughed with my friends. I was completely fine at school but when I got home I got really upset and started crying. I just want to get over him so bad. But seeing him did help me realize that I did make some progress. Do you think sooner or later we will talk or maybe he'll realize he made a mistake. I don't have any classes with him so I don't know how much I will see him but my school only has 1,000 kids..so it's pretty small! I just feel like I will never get over him or anyother guy will want me.
2006-08-16 08:51:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just to clear up..his girlfriend lives 3 hours away
2006-08-16 09:24:38 · update #1
First off, he's 17, and guys for the most part are pretty immature at this point. Most would rather date a variety of girls than have one relationship exclusively. Besides, he lives 3 hours away and you haven't spoken in 3 months.
Instead of wasting any more time thinking about what this guy may or may not want, get out there have fun! Be open to meeting new interesting people. It's so rare that anyone ends up with their high school sweetheart, and there is a reason for that. It is important to see the world and experience what is out there and find yourself. I promise you , the guys that seem so hot and fun now, are not going to be what you're into at 25 or 30. Enjoy being young and dating different people.
Then, when you find a really great guy years down the road ,you won't wonder what you may have missed out on. Trust me! I hear it all the time.
2006-08-16 09:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh how high school . . . the cool thing is that it IS High School so the answer is pretty easy. I think it's an ego thing more than an emotional. It's the desire of being wanted and right now he just happens to be the only male species you have generated in your head. It's been three months since you broke up and no matter what anyone else says, it's was high school love.
Right now you shouldn't even be doing a long term relationship thing. He was right to break it off and shoot around. Take his lead and enjoy the time you have with you're friends while you can.
After college is when your life really starts, between now and then is the time you can take to meet as many people as you can. I say meet not sleep, don't misconstrue the message.
2006-08-16 16:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you as someone who is old enough to know better but not so old that I've lost my memory:
Forget him. You are way too young to have your heart set on one guy. Assuming you are right around 17 too? I would suggest holding out for college guys next year. Trust me when I tell you that next to a college man, your 17 year old ex is nothing.
Also though, he's dating a 17 year old because that's where he's at mentally. Guys don't actually grow a brain until they hit about 23. Then it starts to come together for them.
In the mean time, hold out for tastier fish to fry my young friend. You are at the beginning of a long journey. Don't worry about the destination just yet. Just enjoy the ride. It will be over before you know it and you will someday wish to be where you are right now.
2006-08-16 20:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happen to me long time ago...i can really feel the pain that hurts..u kno wat i did ?? i treated him as my good friend
talk to him if u think u cant get over him..just like a good friend...try making him jealous by talking abt some other guy.. dont ever show ur emotion to him dont let him know that u still love him...time will make him realise and he will definetly come back to u ...well.., than that would be the time when u would not like to accept him...trust me my friend..now cheer up..and look at life with a new vision...try make him realise that he is wrong.. but with laughter
2006-08-16 19:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by sup's 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know that teenage friends are most likely to breakup. Forget him and grow up. Concentrate on studies and find your man when you are ready and mature. Treat this as a learning experience in life and choose your man wisely.
2006-08-20 15:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry for what happen...but dont worry dear everything will be oky....WELL WHAT I THINK THATS WHY HE DATED ANOTHER GIRL IS BCOZ MAYBE HIS HURT THAT YOUR NOT CALLING HIM...YOU KNOW LOOKING FOR ATTENTION...THERE HE GOES LOOK FOR A REBOUND GIRL.
thats good you act nothing is wrong....KEEP IT UP...JUST REMEMBER DEAR IT NOT YOUR LOST...BESIDE YOUR TOO YOUNG......YOUR JOURNEY JUST STARTED...YOU WILL FINE BETTER THAN THIS AND WITH THIS EXP WILL MAKE YOU MORE STRONGER AND STRONGER IN TERMS OF RELATIONSHIP...
AND THIS IS THE APPORTUNITY THAT YOU WILL ENJOY BEING SINGLE AGAIN AND YOU WILL FIND MORE OPTION.....WHAT DO YOU???
well i know its hard but SOMETIMES LIFE IS SO UNFAIR......if he didnt call you so what???
but trust me IGNORE HIM AND DONT CALL HIM...WILL MAKE HIM WONDER....WHY YOUR NOT CALLING HIM.....MAYBE HE'LL THINK YOUR DATING OTHER GUY AND NOW HE MIGHT START THINKING ALSO THAT HE MIGHT LOSE YOU FOREVER...AND YOU NEVER KNOW.....HE MIGHT CALL YOU AGAIN........FROM THERE IS UP TO YOU IF YOU WANNA OPEN THAT DOOR FOR HIM....AND READY TO TAKE THAT RISK....
this is all up to you dear...what ever make you happy GO FOR IT AND I REALLY WISH YOU GOOD LUCK
2006-08-16 16:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you are still young....don't let this guy get to you...if you are meant to be together it will work out. You will love again. I know it hurts. It will take time but you will get over him.
Take care.
2006-08-16 16:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by thejenjens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strange how he isn't talking to you since he was the one that dumped you. I suggest you hang out with your friends and ignore him. You don't need him. If you want to forget him, just think of all the bad things he has done to you.
2006-08-16 16:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you WILL get over him. find another guy, there are lots of them. try a few of them on for size and you will realize that he was just the starter model.
2006-08-16 16:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by sheepherder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i asked a similar question a few weeks ago...... the best thing you can do is to hang out with friends...... they help cause they make you smile..... the the only thing that heals that type of wound is time.....
2006-08-16 15:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Einstein 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋