and her boyfriend is here so often he might as well live here. They're together 24/7 and although I'm really happy for them both, I wish she could spare a thought for me. I've tried talking about it with her but it's no use. I'm so sick of it, I just came home from work and she's scrambling around in her underwear. Please help!
2006-08-16 08:51:09 · 12 answers · asked by AMY S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her 2 go 2 his place and b 2gether if it annoys u so much
2006-08-16 08:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by TinkerbellSB 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
lets b honest. she isn't gonna change, and he will continue being there 24/7 no matter what you say to her. if you say anything she will go and tell him, he will think you have a problem with him and begin to dislike you and turn her against you. then they will move out, and you wont have a friend.....or you could just say nicely that u feel a little like a gooseberry and that u might start looking for somewhere else to live, because you think it would be nice for them to live together. be jokey about it and act like your doing it for her sake. then leave! there is a good website called letalife.com where you can put on a free add to find a housemate all over the country! :)
2006-08-16 16:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by wicca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear sweetie, maybe you should .... move out? i mean yeah shes your best mate and all, but maybe the whole "boyfriend staying over all the time" as a hint that she wants you out? i mean i could be reading the whole situation wrong.
Just think, maybe in a few months time, and you have your own place, and shes stuck there with her boyfriend and they split... she'll be sorry that she made him first priority, boyfriends come and go, but best friends stay forever, she should know that.
Try the talking thing again, but if all else fails i think this is where you make your exit, noone wants to be stuck somewhere where they don't feel wanted, its a crap feeling.
Take care sweetie
2006-08-16 16:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you suggest going for a girls night out, once you have had a couple of drinks, maybe you could gently bring up the subject, and just say you are feeling a little pushed out, don't make it sound like you are having a go at her, or she will get defencive and it will likely end in an arguement, just suggest maybe they could sometimes go to his, or maybe you could spend time with other friends in the evening. or make your bedroom into your little haven and have some "me" time in the evenings, if you have a telly in your room, just light some candles, a few joss sticks and you won't care if there are 100 people in your flat.
i hope the situation improves soon.
2006-08-16 19:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Summer Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never a good idea to share with best friends but hey thats not what you wanna hear. What you havnt explained is whats you are annoyed at. If shes not pulling her wait about the house then shes needs talking to but if you are not getting her attention then try making new friends and arrange a whole new social scene for urself that way she come round back to ya.
2006-08-16 16:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by Gar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. A couple of years ago, I was single and living with my best friend. Her boyfriend would visit and stay with us. (he lives out of town) I would come home to find them cuddling on the couch, and I would go in my room and cry because I was so lonely.
If she's a true friend, you should be able to tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. If she's just not getting it, maybe it's time for a new living situation.
2006-08-16 15:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Morgan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there, if you've tried talkin to her chuck and she doesnt take any notice, and she knows that it bothers you, then she cant be as great of a freind as you thought. People say that love is blind but freindship is also just as important! To me you sound like a very nice person and you dont like causin too much trouble, but 1 day you'll snap and maybe say something that you'll regret. I reckon that you should try to be a little firmer with her, and if its your place shes livin in then she has to respect your wishes! tell me what she says if u fancy? drop me a msg stevemycock@btinternet.com...take care x
2006-08-16 16:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Big Ste 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either your going to have to move out or she is!!
"3 in the bed and the little one said"
"2 company 3a crowd"
2006-08-17 12:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by razza raych 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should find a new roommate, or a new flat...If your friend can't understand why, tell her you need some personal space.
2006-08-16 15:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but the only obvious answer is to move out.
2006-08-16 15:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by cheesywindowcanopy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋