Why did this young woman with 5 kids just come in...............?

Question

to my medical office and they all were on Medicaid? She was 26 years old and had 5 kids already. Does stuff like that tick you off?

Yes, they had different dad's. You ask why does it upset me? Because I am working to support them, that's why.

No she wasn't black, she was white

It ticks me off because my medical insurance is $220.00 per month just for me. My husbands is $220.00 as well. We can barely afford it.

Answer 1

Yes it makes me very angry. Tax payers are supporting her children, she isn't. This is a great example of when there should be forced sterilization.

whooblue42 - my great grandmother had a saying - Once it's a mistake, twice you are a tramp. No telling what she would have said about 3,4 and 5.

Answer 2

Maybe an unfortunate situation put her on Medicaid. If she's a good mom, why should she not keep her children? And, if she gets a job, it'll cost her more than she makes to pay for childcare. And not to mention the outrageous cost of medical care for the kids.

Instead of judging, why doesn't someone offer her a job where she can afford childcare and medical care?

Maybe she doesn't want to be on Medicaid but has no choice. Perhaps the kids dad is a deadbeat ... stop judging!

You may be "working to support them," but what if you lost your job and found yourself without enough income to support your family. What would you do then? Would you let your kids starve and not have the medical attention they deserve?

Answer 3

In most states welfare and medicaid is limitted to one baby now. There are outstanding circumstances, though. If her husband is dead or disabled, she would be able to be on welfare and medicaid. If she already had all 5 kids when her husband left, she would be eligable for welfare and medicaid, providing all children are under 18.
Unless you know all circumstances of her need for help, you should not judge.
But I too have a problem with the way the welfare system works sometimes.
There are people that really need it and use it appropriately, but there are people that do get it, that do not try to change their lives, and keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

Answer 4

So much hate in these answers!

It's very unfortunate. I only wish there was a better medicaid system to benefit those who truly need it and not the ones who actually do take advantage. I think prevention/education is the most effective way to aid people like that. It is often far cheaper than treating the symptoms like more kids, more people needing food, more people without homes, etc.

I am very glad that there is some kind of medicaid, as you never know, you could need it some day.

Answer 5

no it don't tick me off! It makes me sad that people can live there life that way and be satified!
I'm 27 I counldn't imagine haveing 1 kid right now but 5 i would be in a looney bin!
But people who grow up a certain way really know no better!
they live in the ghetto where familys all live together and it's the norm for children to have kids! at least there!
I guess it does make me a little up set that she would be so selfish to use her 5 kids as an income! so yeah your right that is a little unnearving! But if i were in her shoes with her brain i might have to do the same!
Thats' why i'm very thankfull for what i have a good sence and a home and love in my live!
Best of luck too you!
Mad luv

Answer 6

She came in because she probably was told, or thought that your office was a place that she could get medical treatment for herself, or for her children.

Whether on Medicaid, or Blue Cross & Blue Sheild if someone needs help or treatment that is what they seek someone to treat them. By no means should they be treated differently.

No- that does not "tick" me off. However what DOES upset me, is when people in the medical field DISCRIMINATE because of the type of insurance someone has or does not have.

I've been in the medical field, and provided care for people for free at times simply because they could not afford it. Just because some of us are blessed enough to have good insurance, does not make us any better or less than those who cannot, nor does it make us more deserving or less deserving of medical treatment when we need it than others.

Blessings To That Dear Mother & Her Children

Answer 7

It is upsetting but not for the same reasons as yours, it's upsetting because those 5 innocent children, who did not ask to be born, have to live with nothing. They will probably have to share clothes, hand me downs, they will be made fun of in school. They will suffer well into their adult lives. Now my question is does this mother have a job, was or is she married, is she trying to make things better for her children, in school maybe? Do you know her history, was she abused as a child, so now she thinks sex is love, I have a friend that does just that, she doesn't have 5 kids but she wants to be loved so badly by anyone that she thinks she has to have sex with someone in order for them to love her. I don't mind giving a few piddly dollars a month to help these kids, the mother I could care less about, but those kids didn't contribute to the situation their mother put them in.

Answer 8

yes! why do they keep having kids if they can't afford them? I use to work at a bank and this woman would come every end of the month to cash her welfare ck of $1600, she had all this gold jewelry on her hands and drove off in a new car of the year. I was making $7.00/hr, so that really pisssssssed me off. She made more than I did, and she wasn't working.

Answer 9

I think they ought to have medicaid only for the disabled, and they need to crackdown on child support for those kids. My husband has insurance 160 a month, but I don't have any.

Answer 10

Sometimes it does annoy me but who am i to judge, nobody knows what will happen, maybe your house can go on fire it has happend many times and you have to ask for help...familes go on welfare and they still dont have enough and have to beg strangers to feed there family....if you dont know ones circumstances then you shouldn't say anything...i work but right now i dont make enough to live on my own i'm waiting to finish school to find a better job but if my grandmother through me out of her house i would need some type of assistance until i was able to get back on my feet...thank god i dont have any kids because i wouldn't want them to go through the drama with me

Answer 11

I work at a gym where they give financial aide...and I can't stand it when parents come in, and they have like 5-6 kids dressed in very nice clothes and the mother is wearing diamond earings and a huge rock on her finger and they say they need help with their bills...I'm all for helping people-the right people!! Oh yeah and then when have been given the finacial aide...they pull off the parking lot in their Lexus!