I've been with my Boyfriend for almost a year. We live in seperate states and only see each other on the weekends. I am also 5 months pregnant with this child. I value the time I get to spend with him even if its only the weekends. Well he just told me that on Labor day weekend which is a 3 day weekend for both of us and an extra day we could spend together that he was going to the beach with his friends. My feelings are more hurt then anything because he is giving up one of our weekends together. I am not the type to get upset over things like that I just think its pregnancy hormones. He went to Vegas a couple months back with some friends and I was fine with that. But I guess a part of me is feeling like he shouldnt leave me while I am pregnant...then again its probably just the hormones. Would anyone else be upset over this?
2006-08-16 08:41:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Long distance, relationships are hard.
2006-08-16 08:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This guy is a loser. You aren't just boyfriend/girlfriend anymore... there is now a child involved... his party days are over! If you are expecting his child, and you consider this relationship solid, why aren't the two of you living together and preparing to raise the family? If you haven't even been together a year, and you're already five months pregnant, that means this relationship moved WAY too fast and he's not ready to give up his buddy time yet, most likely. He probably won't stick around after the baby comes. Living in two different states makes things awfully convenient for him- if there's a baby on the way and he hasn't offered to move closer or into the same house with you to raise it... I'd be worried. He's keeping you at arm's length for a reason. It starts with little things like this, and eventually they drift away completely. I think this will end up being the least of your worries.
2006-08-16 15:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am pregnant, too, and I feel your hurt. I really do. Guys don't, and never will understand the hormonal changes that we are going through, and the ups and downs. It's really a pain. I don't think you're over reacting about this. I know how you feel. It probably wouldn't even matter if you told him that you did have a problem with it, he would still go anyway. I don't know what to tell ya, girl......just remember this whenever the baby comes, and tell him that you need some time to yourself for a few hours and leave him with the baby, and see if he likes it.
2006-08-16 15:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me ask you why would you get pregnant by a man whom lives in another state? I mean seriously when you create a child with a man he should be there for you from day one all the way through the pregnancy you shouldn't have to go through it alone. What are you two going to do once the baby is born, are you going to continue living in seperate states? I believe that you need to think long and hard for the sake of your baby what you are going to do because it won't get easier only harder. Good luck and btw yes i would be mad tooo.
2006-08-16 17:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by cheryl m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, you have a problem. You're pregnant and he's headed off somewhere else? What's going to happen after the baby arrives? He's going to still go to Vegas and you're going to be left home alone w/the baby. What about child support? What about marriage? what about????? (you fill in the blanks). You already have trouble and you are going to have more. You need to sit down w/this guy and get these issues settled (and in writing if possible) or get married whether there are legal protections for you and the child.
How do you women get in these un freaking believable situations?
2006-08-16 15:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to review: You've been sleeping with the guy, apparently without any promise of commitment. You got pregnant. You hardly see each other. Now you're upset because he's decided to pretty much keep living his life as he wants. Does that about cover it?
Why would you be upset? Looks to me like nothing much has changed -- as far as he's concerned anyway.
2006-08-16 15:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Owl Creek Observer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you're wrong to feel this way but I do think that since he's working and doesn't have time to spend with friends during the week then maybe he would like to spend some of that time with them as well as with you!...I don't think that you're wrong to feel the way you do though....because you are pregnant and you should be together but maybe he just needs a little break to be with "the guys"!
2006-08-16 15:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by sugahlips27 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Upset? I'd have reached through the phone and strangled him if I were you.
I think you have every right to be upset. What is he thinking? What's going to happen when you have that baby? Is he going to be there then? Or are you going to be left with all the responsibilty while he cavorts with his crew? Screw that. I'd give him a very stern talking-to if I were you.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-16 15:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Irish Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset! Tell him how you feel. Let him know you don't mind him hanging out with his friends but you think your time together is important as well, especially since your having a baby.
2006-08-16 15:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by Luna V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset too. But relax, while he's away, spend time with your gf and pamper yourself.
2006-08-16 15:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by starr 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋