We have been together for 8 yrs and he has gotten worse since baby was born, I have two older daughters, 17/14 and he is verbally abusive to them if not ignoring them altogether. I dont have the 1st last sec to move and no family to help, any suggestions? he is 48 and i am 39
2006-08-16 08:36:46 · 34 answers · asked by chicklets 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They have programs for women in abusive relationships they will give you, and your children a temporary place to live.
2006-08-16 08:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by VL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a way out and do whatever you have to do within legal means to get that baby out of there too. You may not be in a position to support another child on your own but you can't stay and you can't leave a 2 year old with him. Call family services. A lot of places have anonymous homes where you can go without his knowledge and they can help with the smallest child.
2006-08-16 08:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by justme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell to the NO!!!!!!!!!!!! DONT leave him with the baby, if he is verbally abusive he could become phsically abusive. That wouldnt be right. Cant you two older children watch the baby when you have other stuff to do? If not get a sitter. Please, he is not responsible for himself while under the influence, how can he be responsible for a baby. Whatever you do dont leave the baby with him. Something bad might happen , dont take such chances.
2006-08-16 08:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, girl....you most definately have answered your own question. Take the others advise, call a shelter or a local church. There are a lot of people willing to help you, you just have to ask for it!
Dont let that man define you. Straighten your spine, throw those sholders back and stick that chin up. You are worth more than that...and your children are worth even more! Break the chain and get help today.
2006-08-16 08:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you inflict abuse on your children this way. You are the mom and you should do anything to protect your children. I get so sick of hearing about women who put their children through emotional or physical abuse because they think they are in love with some a$$hole. There's plenty of people who would be willing to help you. You need to make the move.
2006-08-17 07:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by belladonna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs help now that you cannot provide. I care more for you than a drunk piece of crap. You will NEVER resolve his problems for him..the only thing to do now is take a leap of faith and get out. If he wants to get better, then he will. But you need to call a battered woman's shelter (regardless of if it was verbal or physical abuse) and let them help you along. They are more than willing and have seen many cases like this. Staying will only make it worse. After you get out, then you can tell him he needs to seek therapy and AA now. Do it for you. Do it for your children.
2006-08-16 08:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, here's a great big hug - HUGGGG
I left my abusive bf almost 15 years ago - thank GOD we didn't have any kids. I feel for you.
Now, there are many resources to help you get out, get on your feet and get on with your life. Try:
http://www.ndvh.org/
http://www.ncadv.org/
They can direct you to the services that are available in your area.
There is no excuse whatsoever for what he's doing. You need to protect yourself and your children and get away from this man. It is difficult but it is not impossible.
Best of luck to you - I wish you strength.
2006-08-16 08:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Irish Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no because it teaches the child that verbally abusing is right if its coming from its parent and it could become emotionally destroyed if it keeps getting abused and that child will think itsok to get married to someone like him and act like him when your child is older. Being with that parent only teaches the 2 yr old to be just like their dad.
2006-08-16 08:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My challenge is for what you at the instant are not announcing: what's it that Alanon has shown you? i'd desire, even in a foul marriage (undesirable good now, possibly it relatively is won't continuously be undesirable) to have my husband in the residing house so i will supervise what is going on. i assume your husband has a activity. in case you 2 divorce, i'm guessing you will would desire to teach he's an alcoholic. He would desire shared custody, working example, and that is situations you ought to no longer supervise his habit with your son. think of approximately it that way and additionally think of approximately consistent with probability backing off of the alcholic/non-alcoholic debate you have with him and consistent with probability convince him to bypass to marital counseling with you. Then consistent with probability the alcohol subject must be dealt with with a therpist's guiding hand, no longer in an argumentative way.
2016-10-02 04:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must leave at once. An abusive partner on any level will damage your children ...you have no idea that you are putting your children in harms way. Please at once take action. If you have a trusted friend please contact them for help. Check out battered women shelters in your area to put an action plan together. If you are working start looking into apartments. If you are not working start looking for employment at once. There is no excuse why you need to stay. If you need to talk contact me at davispsue@yahoo.com. Please do something.
2006-08-16 08:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋