Should I persue a past love?

Question

I left a really great guy named Mike for my ex Gary over 4 years ago. I knew I made the wrong choice back then, and I was prepared to tell Mike that I wanted to be with him and only him shortly after we broke off the relationship. But I found out I was pregnant by my ex Gary. After my daughter was born, I tried to find Mike to tell him how I felt about him, that I really still loved him, and that I hoped it wasn't too late. I located him, met with him, but found out that weekend that I was pregnant again by my ex Gary. So I had no choice to set my heart and feelings aside and stay with my ex Gary for the kids sake. But I can't handle it anymore. Mike is the only guy I want to be with. I need to tell him, but it's been 4 years. I found him yesterday on Myspace, he is single and was also searching for me. Should I just come out and tell him why I have been looking for him after 4 years, or should I start with a friendship again, and see if anything can develop?

Answer 1

Go with your heart, life is too short. In the meantime, please don't get pregnant by Gary again.

Answer 2

You're a mother. Your foremost concern should be your children. If you can't possibly make it work with Gary, and I mean, you've tried councilling and really put an effort into forgetting about Mike, then you need to look at how unhappy you are, and how much it is effecting the kids.

If you've really tried, and you're making your kids miserable, work on making an amicable seperation from their father. Don't fling yourself directly into Mike's arms after this happens. Go, work on yourself, get your kids straightened out (because leaving their father will mess with their heads a bit) and then when everything settles, talk to Mike.

Keep in mind, he may not want you still.

Answer 3

Tell him how you feel.