My dad has about 3 days off each week and when he's not at work he just sits in front of the computer the whole day. I would like to develop a better relationship with him like I have with my mom but he's on the computer all day. Also the past couple of days I've been thinking about the future and how my parents will eventually be gone.. and now I'm like depressed all day, anyone have any advice?
2006-08-16 08:19:36 · 14 answers · asked by sports addict1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just tell him you would like to spend more time with him. Make a suggestion that he take you fishing or doing something together that you both enjoy.
2006-08-16 08:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by WEIRDRELATIVES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you dad seems to be on the computer all day. Try emailing him. Tell him what a special dad he is and that because you love him so much you would like to spend more time with him. Plan an event ( that won't cost so much) and invite him to it with you. Maybe your ballgame or the local highschool football game. golfing fishing etc. name the date and time that you would like and tell him if this time is not good for him to email you back with a better time. Then go out and have fun. the plan another event. make sure you plan the next after each outing then you will both look forward to this time together. start with 1 or 2 a month. Good Luck
2006-08-16 09:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by curious2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him an e-mail (since he's on the computer all day that's a sure way he'll get it) ... and tell him that you want to spend time and create memories with him. He may not be aware that you want to spend time with him. Make suggestions on what the two of you could do together.... take a bike ride or go fishing or camping or play a sport or even take a class together.
I never really got close to my dad and before i knew it he died at a very young age. I can't tell you how many times I think about the fact that I didn't make enough effort to spend time with him... I think you're doing the right thing and I hope your dad will take the time! Good luck
2006-08-16 08:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This makes me really sad. My son is turning 13 today and his dad works 6 days a week and only has off Sundays. When he is off he is usually tired and just wants to rest. I would suggest you talk with your mom seeing as though your relationship with her is close and maybe the two of you can come up with a plan. I just talked to my husband recently about how he has to MAKE the time to spend with our son. Time flies by and you can't get the years back. Sometimes it just might take your mom putting the bug in his ear that you are really missing him. The last thing your dad would want is for you to find someone other than him to look up to. That was the case with my hubby and he and my son are spending lots more time together lately. Wishing you the best.
Jewel
2006-08-16 08:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Pan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess if your problem is how to approach him/start a conversation. then you have to think about stuff you have in common.
*does he sit on the computer to do work, or he's just doing nothing?
maybe you could start talking to him like "what are you doing?" .. just ask questions, (not if he's truly busy). but whenever you see him doing something not so important. try to get his attention!!!.
I'm, guessing you are an only child, maybe when you're all sitting at the table, you could make plans. since your close to your mom maybe she could help you.
i think that if you barely talk to him, and then go out by yourselves then even though he's your dad it can get awkward. so start little by little, I'm sure that when you talk to him about your worries about the future he'll understand.
hope it helps, and good luck!
Pao
2006-08-16 08:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Pao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel then some way or another they'll came around to also give you time and the day/days your father is off have that time be family night where you all can bond and tell about each others day and find what you and your dad like and is interested in!
2006-08-16 08:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by mz_liciousness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad that you want to spend some time with him. Just let him know. As for your other question, that is all part of circle of life. No one knows when his/her number is up. You can only take control of the things that you can, and let go of the things that are not.
2006-08-16 08:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your dad tell him you would like to spend time with him. Quit dwelling on the future. Live in the now that is all any of us have.
2006-08-16 08:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by dominator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him just to go and do simple things like going to the store. and find out simlar things you guys have in common and do those things. let him know that your his child and you want to spend time with him. I wish i had a dad to spend my time with. but i dont. you let him know that your there. take things slow at first then do the big things like camping. good luck.
2006-08-16 08:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by ImDaBoss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum consistently says my dad spoils me, yet that doesn't propose i'm nearer to him Me and my mum are almost a similar man or woman, so because it incredibly is why we are so close. we are the two basically bizarre lol
2016-11-04 23:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋