there is a kareoke birthday party at my boyfriends cricket club this saturday it looks like i have to go or spend another saturday night in listening to my nieghbours loud so i cant hear my tv chavvy music.
im skint so i cant go out clubbing with my mates and my boyfriend wont lend me money coz he is buying me a new tv on friday.
i dont get on with most of the people from his cricket club they just dont seem to want me there apart from making up numbers and bar takings.
the people i do talk to leave early to put their kids to bed and im left on my own again if my boyf is talking cricket to with the team.
i always end up getting drunk and angry by the end of the night and no1 seems to care.
it annoys my boyfriend that people dont want to talk to me but he asks me to keep trying. i find it really hard to do this, but when he sees some1 talking to me he assumes im ok and leaves me to it. its been 2 years now.
im normally really confident.
what do you think i should do
2006-08-16 07:51:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have staying power that's for sure, you say its been like this for 2 years. Well he doesn't seem like a bad chap, he is buying you a TV, he wants you to go to the cricket club with him. Men can be inconsiderate when it comes to being out with their girl friends and pals at the same time. Instead of getting drunk when the people you talk to go home go onto a mineral or water, you may not be angry then. Try to join in with your boy friend don't let him "leave you to it" you go to him. If you really cant stand it leave early in a taxi or don't go at all. It would be a shame if you gave up now though, you have put 2 years into this, also its a big part of his life. i think you can sort it out,
2006-08-16 08:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go and keep putting yourself through that. Your bf sees that you are not happy at there and still keeps pushing you to go and to try........... I would stay home....... rent a movie or two, call some gf's you haven't talked to lately or even invite a few friends over. Ask your bf to come by after he is done there with his friends and club members. Be the independent and confident person that you are, and don't go......... make other use of your time and if your bf gets upset with you and says your not trying even though you have been all this time....... tell him to get lost if he truely can not see your efforts to share with him what he enjoys and how everyone else treats you when you are there and trying. No one deserves to go through that and that group of people are blinded by the kind, loving person you actually are... if you weren't, you never would have went in the first place. Blessed be........ and good luck.
2006-08-16 15:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were in your situation, and assuming I wouldn't be going with him...I'd buy a couple of bottles of a nice red wine...rent some movies..or start a good book anew one or one of your favorites...
Then I'd start to reevaluate my life....
What do we have together that makes me stay with him????
If his cricket club is so important where do I stand on his list of priorities????
Do I really have an emotional attachment??? Or is this a comfort, I'm afraid to go out an try again thing????
Look, No criticism here..But if you're asking this question it seems that there is allot more going on under the surface that should be examined.
2006-08-16 15:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by tincre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I recommend you do is not drink. Being drunk is ok only if you are actually having a good time. If you are trying to drink your troubles away, you are just going to make things worse. Try to talk to people because there is nothing better you can do. Try to single out someone who seems not to be party of any group (guys are easiest) and talk to him. Or just sit with him. It will help you feel less alone. If it's a guy, he'll probably flirt with you which can be funny or fun, depending on how good he is.
2006-08-16 15:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring a friend or someone you'd like to get to know (so you'll have lots of things to talk about) and make it a night out with them. You can't afford to go clubbing but there's no need when the fun is right there! you just need the right people around you who won't make you feel angry. So try and make it a fun night with the people that you want to be around. Then there is no pressure to make forced conversations with your boyfriend's friends
2006-08-16 14:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by bananapancakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've just persuaded my man to give up cricket, after 17 years, because I can't go to the matches due to our young children. In the past, I got involved, I learnt how to keep the score book which was the only way I could make it fun! I was known as the team mascot, I would get drunk with the guys and they were my mates as well as his. Sounds like your guy needs to make a choice. Most men won't give up their stuff for a girl but hey, does he love them more than he wants to keep you?
2006-08-16 15:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, your boyfriend obeusly likes you alot if he wants you to keep trying. try to start a conversation and dont drink alot. stay at your boyfriends side and ask him to introduse you to everyone. also, he has to do his part in this, if he does not talkt o the guys about you than they wont really know what you are about. try it again and see what happens. its better than sitting home on a saturday night watching tv right?
good luck =D
2006-08-16 14:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can anyone like cricket...lol....you should do what you want to do...
so facing a similar situation with annoying music...l put on my lp's full blast and went out for the day...that cured the neighbour seven hours of zeppelin at full volume.....nice.
Why not visit his mum?...can he moan about that? take some wine and pick faults with men...not that we have any btw...but you can try
2006-08-20 10:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll take you out. Nice meal then a quiet drink followed by a night of dancing.
Who knows maybe your boyfriend might realise what he's missing.
2006-08-16 14:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Bob-bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM YOU DON'T WANT TO GO. Call the cops on the noisy neighbers, and spend a nice noght at home. Take a bubble bath or somthing for yourself....
2006-08-16 14:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by sexy momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋