My husband wants me to be with a woman. What should i think?

Question

He says he just wants to watch. I have never been with a woman and dont know if i could go through with it or not. It's hard for me not to think he just wants another woman or that he is bored with me. I do pretty much anything he asks in bed so why is it they always want more more more?

Answer 1

Don't do anything you are not comfortable with.

Answer 2

Do you guys agree on cheating?
This is cheating.
I did a presentation on behavior like this. It's called "HEDONISM". If you look up the word, you'll find that it ties itself beautifully with "SELFISHNESS". It's seeking one's own pleasures.
I don't agree with this type of request, and I never recommend it to any couples/married couples. It's lustful and inviting to other extremely potentially negative things to come. I'd becareful with this, and if anything you should feel demoted by his request. Ask him if he'll engage in sex w/another man while you watch and see what happens! LOL!
Remember that you got married because of many reasons that had to do w/the two of you, and no one else. Another person getting involved is an intruder. It can lead to feelings that you will not be able to repair easily or ever at all. I think he's got a problem with his view on sex and pleasure.
You should heed to your husband's requests in bed, of course. But he's asking for another person to get involved in your intimate life. This is means for a divorce, because a marriage was never intended to involve more than the couple and children, and this would be considered an affair. But of course, that's not what I'm trying to recommend. Simply pointing out the seriousness of this lusted request.
Good luck w/that one!

Answer 3

That's a toughy. Don't look into it too deep without talking to him. He might think you would like being with another female better and wants to see how much you enjoy it. There is not always a planned agenda when your husband wants you to something like this as everyone else is saying. I know from personal experience that husbands want their wives (for the most part) to be happy and pleased. He might see it another way but before you assume it you really need to talk to him and see what he says. Tell him how you feel about it and watch his reaction.

Good luck...and hey, if you ever want to try it out I'm willing to explore with you!

Answer 4

Hey Hun, coming from a BI woman and a swinger.. I think that your not ready, IF when you can get naked with another woman, with your man watching and have no problem doing anything. then i would try it, but only if YOU want to. If you do it just because he wants you to, your not going to be happy or enjoy it. And it is fun.

This is what i done for my 1st time with a woman:
First find someone that you trust to try it with.
Try it alone, (if your man will go for that)... this will tell you IF you are ready to been seen with another woman.

If you would like to talk more you can I'M me, or send me an e-mail... its [e-mail]

Answer 5

hes bored with sex life trying to spice things up.He says he will only watch thats a bunch of bs what man is going to just watch get aroused and not join in.Im telling you now if u do this this will cause more complications in your marriage.If he wants spice start doing things diffrent try new positions get some toys but dont bring someone else into your bed thats giving him the oppurtunity.Do you wanna share hubby with someone else could you watch him have sex with another girl?I know i couldnt.You already try new things and hes still not happy set your foot down hes trying to see how far he can push you and how much you will actually do for him.He may not even be serious hes just testing your boundrys.Either way you need to sit him down and have a serious talk with him tell him how you feel about it and if hes still adament about it then i would suggest get counceling to fix this problem.

Answer 6

Ill tell you the truth. He probably does love you. That fact that he wants you to do that for him means something. Think about it. he could probably pay 2 college girls to do that and let him watch, but he wants you. I know that fantasies such as this have been a bad rep, but think about why. Clearly you are victim like much of the population, to conservative anti sexual expression thought. Society sees anything that even remotely similar to pornography as taboo. We are brought up like that since we are children, but seriously, we need to start taking objective looks at things and asking why do i think like that. and if your answer is because aI was brought up that way, than you should reconsider the way you feel about something.

PS. guys always want more and more, its part of their nature so dont judge your husband. Also its important to keep things exciting, by trying new things. And dont let society affect your decisions.

Answer 7

Genetic programming. If you're not even the least bit bi-curious, don't do it. You'll feel terrible about it, and eventually your husband will feel the effects of encouraging you to do something you were not happy to do.

Men are programmed more for quantity, and women for quality. Lower mammals often mate with many females in the herd, pride, whatever. They are more geared for quantity for the sake of perpetuating the survival of the species. '

There's not anything lacking in you. He simply is seeking some spice and variety, as ALL men (and some women) are. Tell him he'll need to find another outlet and don't compromise your own emotional well-being.

Answer 8

Since it doesn't seem like you hep to it, I'd say no. And you're husband should be careful what he asks for. I've known women who were in the same situation as you, and they ended up liking it so much that they left there husband for the other woman, lol. Personally, I think he's being very selfish.

Answer 9

While, I might be able to suggest what to do, it's harder to suggest what to think. If you don't even know what to think then you should say no until you have thought about it. He may just be using you as his personal sex toy, or he may actually have a reason for it. He may want to experiment with polyamory and have multiple safe partners. Or he may just be on an ego trip and simply enjoys controlling you. It's hard to say from here. Polyamory can be a good thing, if you and he and others enjoy it, but control-freaking rarely is a good thing.

Answer 10

You should think that it won't end there. Once you do that, he will ask you to do something else, maybe with another man in front of him. I'm sorry, but I feel this is sick. You should never expect your wife to do something like this if you truly love her. Really, I would tell him there is no way your going to do this that it is against your morals. Don't sacrifice yourself for "his" fantasies. Fantasies are okay if they are about just you and him together, but bringing someone else in the bedroom is only asking for marital problems. Don't do it!

Answer 11

The more you do for him in the sack the more he'll want this week it's you with a girl next week it's the two of you with the girl the week after it's him with the girl while you watch. Time to set some limits. If you don't want to do it just say NO!

Oh yea the reason he wants more more more is because he's a selfish prat.