I have a 4 1/2 month old son and I baby sit for a friend who has a daughter the same age. She and I differ in our routines with our kids. Hers has no routine, mine does. Her girl eats when she wants, sleeps when she wants and does what she does when she wants to. My son has a predictable personality for his feedings and he usually naps at the same times everyday. The problem is the way her mom is raising her is interfering with my son's daily routine. Rather than eat meals, she snacks throughout the day and when she's tired she won't sleep she screams for HOURS until I just put her back in the crib and have to just let her scream, which her mom doesn't believe in doing. It interfers with my son's naps so he usually awakened by her screeches. Her mom basically spoils her with picking her up and carrying her around all day and giving her what she wants. Not only am I not willing to do that with her, I can't. I have my own son to care for too. Help!!
2006-08-16 07:26:36 · 10 answers · asked by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It;s not your child. Let her find alternate childcare.
2006-08-16 07:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your friend and explain to her about your sons routine and how your finding it a bit difficult to deal with her daughter when shes crying. and doing whatever she wants. Maybe you can find a solution together. If not her daughter is only 4months old, she will adjust to a routine in time as long as you stick with it. Ive babysat alot of kids in my time and i find that they do ajust to your rules and routine as long as you stick with it and dont give in. It can be rough in the beginning but in the end i find it does get easier and everyone is happier. My routine was breakfast, morning snack, lunch, nap,and afternoon snack. If it gets to the point where your just getting too stressed out and the baby isnt adjusting, then just explain to your friend its too much to take care of 2, 4 month olds, if shes a good friend she'll understand. Take care!
2006-08-16 07:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry, she does not seem needy, yet extra like spoiled. Do you no longer self-discipline her because of fact she isn't your guy or woman? How previous is she besides? If she is sufficiently previous to understand instructions, tell her what might ensue if a bad habit happens, (timeout, no nutrition, regardless of). And carry it via! it will take time, she would be able to nevertheless cry/scream for a mutually as, yet she has to verify. in case you are able to no longer do all this, then you certainly ought to enable her mom detect a brand new sitter.
2016-12-14 06:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that caring for her daughter is disrupting how you care for your son. Let her know that it's not working out and she should find another sitter. I don't believe it's being cruel, it's just that your parenting styles are different. Hopefully, if she's a real friend, she'll understand. Maybe try to make it a little easier for her and recommend a sitter that might work for her.
2006-08-16 07:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that you can't care for her child like she would like you to. It sounds like you aren't able to meet both babies needs and she needs a new sitter.
I had a high maintaince child, they are notoriously difficult and you do need/have to do things differently with them. Mine also wouldn't be held to a schedule and needed to held constently. Your friend isn't "spoiling" her child, she's meeting her baby's needs - which at the moment her baby needs more then what your happy little guy does.
2006-08-16 07:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by myshira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend isnt willing to change her habits with her daughter, which she is entitled to not change them begin that her routine works for her and thats what matters, then i suggest you offer her to look for alternate child care as it seems to be a huge disruption on your life.
2006-08-16 07:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound to me like you are not capable of keeping two kids. It is not your child, you have no say in how she raises her baby. If you can't handle it, give it up
2006-08-16 07:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by kelynn1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't babysit for her anymore. Your child's routine is more important, than having another child disrupt it!
2006-08-16 08:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Regina R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell her how you feel and and stop babysitting for her if you don't like her routine of doing things
2006-08-16 07:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by minty1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then quit watching that other kid! Its not fair of her to ask you to watch her kid when she interrupts your child's schedule. Your prime responsibility is YOUR kid, NOT hers!
2006-08-16 07:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋