2006-08-16 07:12:46 · 32 answers · asked by katinalln 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am having the same problem at home with my husband. I beleive he has an internet porn addition, they just can't help themselves and they feel their not hurting anyone,or they think its just like looking at penthouse or play boy. which its not the same.
2006-08-16 07:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... I posted a very long explanation to this on my personal blog. Here's a general recap:
A man wants to be immersed into situations which are not routine to his day to day life. Most porn is based around one of the wants of men: other women. However, a lot of movies are based around rich people in yachts or big houses, etc. The idea is that the man pretends, just for that second hes' at it, that he's doing that chick in that house with all that money.
It's just a way to imagine and "expend" energy on desires. It also keeps men mellow, because if he's worried about how he's not good looking for example: he can go spend 5 minutes looking at pr0n and for those 5 minutes, he was that guy doing that hot chick (and in his mind he's some hot guy) - and when it's over, his "worry" about being bad looking is gone, because, his mind wasted all the energy pretending.
Masturbation is the #1 waste of mental energy to a guy.
Being "Horny" is the #1 frustration of having a build up of energy.
Ever heard of the sentence "that guy had a hardon for you" or "that guy was so happy about his new job that he got a hard on" - it's all referencing the same ideal: men want things, it builds up in their mind, if they can't have it they either A) bottle it up until they break down or B) go after it.
Anyway, even with the hot girls it's not really about the girls. It's about jacking off to get everything off of his mind so he can get back to going about his business. Yes, you may be better and he may like you more, but until you start pretending to be some little slutty rich girl and start acting like the girls in porn, you won't be able to replace the "immersion" qualities of pornography - and thus, you won't be able to waste energy in the things that are bothering him.
Plus, it's a nice change of pace to look at something different, and if he doesn't look at porn look at his alternatives:
A) think of past girlfriends/experiences
B) think of people he sees everyday at work, or just out and about
.... would you rather he be pretending to be with something that's obviously unrecheable; or start wondering about calling his exes or talking to that cute girl at the counter of the local grocery store? 'Cause you know once he starts immersing himself in that, action will start occuring in his mind.. "wonder what she's doing nowdays.." etc.
2006-08-16 07:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Solrium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only does my husband look at porn - he also looks at women. Men are genetically programmed to seek quantity in mating to perpetuate the survival of the species, whereas women seek quality in a single mate. Lower mammals than ourselves have several females per male or the group, and the male mates with and breeds with many of the females.
It doesn't matter how good-looking, intelligent, or good in bed you are, either. Men will always seek out other forms of eroticsm, and it's generally no reflection on the qualities of the woman he's with.
2006-08-16 07:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because the partner won't do what the porn actors will. Maybe because the man is not actually that turned on by the his partner and wants something to fantasize about during sex. Maybe the man loves and doesn't want to leave his partner so he is satisfying himself on his own. Maybe because the man wants the illusion of multiple partners in his sex life, while remaining faithful to a single real partner. Maybe because the man wants to see variety, even if he is not planning on leaving. Maybe because the man thinks the human body is a work of art and thinks what you call porn is art.
2006-08-16 07:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by Wyld Stallyns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define Sexually rewarding, then ask the husband to define it?
You will be very surprised.
To answer the question there is always that sense of wonderment that make me wnat to look at it. It is sexually exciting and at times a releif.
2006-08-16 07:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are visual...it's how they are driven they just can't help it. It's nothing personal against you, although I know it can feel like it. but I gauranee you this...they hardly notice the women they are looking at in porn...it's the body parts and the actual act of sex that turns them on.
2006-08-16 07:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by Passionfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The desire to have sex with as many different women as possible is hard-wired into our DNA. Modern society has forced most of us to suppress this urge, so we either release it through fantasies, or we ignore it and become less than fully human.
2006-08-16 07:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by Steven S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it as he doesn't want you anymore, men will always be men..... They are going to look at women with or without you. Try doing it with him and you both can get turned on together.
2006-08-16 07:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to read men are from mars women are from venues. It really helps explain a lot. Like someone already answered me are visual.
2006-08-16 07:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual creatures. We are emotional. Do not take it personally, until the playmate of the month shows up at your door.
2006-08-16 07:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by todiscoduck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋