I met this guy& we hit it off straight away. the chemistry was there! I felt like I had known him for years& I know he felt the same. BUT he has an ex of 9 years, who he keeps on breaking up& getting back together with. they've been through a lot together. This did'nt bother me at 1st because I was so blown away by him and how perfect everything felt. Then he started telling me things like; "I dont know how this is going to turn out", "I dont know if I'm ready for another serious relationship", "I dont know when I will be able to call you my girlfriend or when we can make this official" &so it went on.. Me fighting to keep him, him letting me go then dragging me back in as I was about to leave him. We were'nt together for that long, 2/3 months. I eventually could'nt take it anymore& I broke it off for good. But its been 4 months& I still cant seem to let go. no matter who I meet or what I do my thoughts always circle back to him& how wonderful it felt. how do I kick it in ***& let go?
2006-08-16 06:53:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why does life always bring something good along, and then turnaround and kick you in the balls.
2006-08-16 06:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by dannym7500 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there,
akon was asked a question of how to deal with an ex and he replied, go on out and date. babe, that the only way out of this. probably your guy hasnt told u everything about his girl for 9 years, who can? and it would take a lot from you to find out, but have you got that time? you are supposed to be enjoying you newly found not digging up old chests.
you man has a problem with decision making, if he's keeping you inorder not ot miss his ex, too bad for you.
or he cant just make up his mind bcos you dont excel in some areas more than his ex, again, dear, too bad for you.
my advice is that its fun while it lasted, move on, date new people, definitely you find a better man, unless if like him, you have problems of making a decision.
good luck
2006-08-16 07:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by maxndianaefo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people u have 2 hold on 2 call him u can be friends the only way 2 get over him stay with him until u just have 2 let go
2006-08-16 07:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by cherryberry_09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!!! You already took the first and one of the most difficult steps in a relationship by breaking up with him. Sweettie, you need to move on and try to meet someone who is more worthy of your affections. Try not to spend lots of time thinking about what coud have been and about why things hapenned the way they did. Keep yourself busy and do things that will keep you from thinking about him. Only you can help yourself. Give it time. Sometimes time can be our best friend. It's his loss. There's someone out there that does want to take you seriously. Have patience and persevere.
2006-08-16 07:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by madeline4sure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll probably always have strong feelings for this person. There isn't much you can do about that. It sounds like you did the right thing though. It's likely that when you think about this person you're remembering all the amazing things about him. You really need to look at everything. Remember the pain it caused you when he played you like a yo-yo. You deserve more than that. You deserve a full time love. Don't you?
2006-08-16 07:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by radnimar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four months is a short time frame to mourn a relationship that meant alot to you. It may still take a couple more months before you are over it. If you have thoughts of him make yourself think of something else. NEVER compare a guy you are currently dating to someone you have dated in the past. If you have items he bought you or left at your home get rid of those so that you don't think of him when you see them.
Good luck!
2006-08-16 07:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't want to let go..that's why. You still think there is hope. You need to change your behavior, sweetie. He is still hung up on the ex and three is a crowd. I don't know what to tell you......you just have to make a commitment to go to new places, get interested in different things etc.....only you can decide. You are wasting precious time.......give yourelf a re-do. You will not find peace by finding another boyfriend.....you must find peace within yourself first.....Trust me.
2006-08-16 07:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sure sounds sad. That sort of $hit happens though. I reckon if (you still cant let go, no matter who you meet) then you will need to give it time. I think it’s the only thing that cures a situation like you describe. Call your friends!
2006-08-16 07:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Buzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy was so wonderful, he wouldn't have kept taking back his ex. Let him go, it will hurt for a while, but just remember that he didn't really love you anyway if he couldn't commit to just you. When you meet a guy who wants to be with you, and only you, then you will completly forget about what's his name.
2006-08-16 06:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by kirstie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, he doesn't respect you and he doesn't really love you other wise he wouldn't do this. Take some time and really think about how he is treating you and if you deserve better or not. It won't be easy but life is to short for someone like this to take up so much of your time.
2006-08-16 07:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by lawsonmc11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time can really make things like that go away. Especially such a short romance as that. Go out with friends, or do something special for yourself, anything that will draw your attention elsewhere for now.
2006-08-16 07:00:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋