My husband went on a trip to Boston to see a concert, for 5 days.. He was with 2 other friends of his. They went out to a few bars, a red sox game...etc etc and had a great time. Just wondering if guys away on a trip like that will stray, or if they are just having good boy fun! The problem is, that if something did happen, I would never know......What is your opinion. P.S. We are just married over a year, and have a great marriage, I just don't want to be naive, so I am asking the question.
2006-08-16 06:52:56 · 31 answers · asked by JCW 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Contrary to popular belief, men aren't dogs we just typically don't respect women for whatever reason.
Respect is huge to a man, respect is to a man what love is to a woman. If he respects you, he didn't cheat. In fact, if he respects you he wouldn't have gone on the trip if he felt it would genuinely hurt you.
So don't yourself ask if he cheated. That question leads to lies, suspicion, jealousy, and insanity. Ask yourself if he respects you. If so, you're safe. If not then it doesn't matter whether or not he cheated, you probably aren't where you need to be.
2006-08-16 07:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by dascatalyst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a group situation such as you described, there is a high probability that the boys behaved themselves, except for drinking and eating too much. At the very worst, they may have gone to a strip club. Most people wouldn't consider that infidelity, but some do.
On the other hand, if your husband were traveling by himself a lot and were acting suspiciously upon returning, then you might have some reason for suspicion. The situation you describe doesn't fit that description. It's baseball!!! A much more formidable mistress than any woman could ever hope to be!
2006-08-16 14:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone away on several trips without my spouse. Guess what? In our entire marriage I've never slept around. Most guys are as faithful as the family labrador, while some act like dogs in heat. They might go to a titty bar but that is about the extent of excitement. My away time generally is hiking and prospecting in the hills or hunting with buddies. Going to a city for entertainment ain't my cup o' tea.
By the end of a hard day of gold panning I am ready to crawl in the sleeping bag under the stars. I dream of finding huge gold nuggets as I doze off to sleep watching the stars under the big Wyoming skies.
2006-08-16 16:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only way to stop him is to give him great sex the night before and a little highway head on the way to the airport. Leave him with fresh memories of how hot ad sexy you are and the great thing he has going at home. If you follow these simple steps no man will ever cheat when he goes on a trip without you.
2006-08-17 16:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Diggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the guy. If you trust him and know that he's been faithful in the past, then I wouldn't worry about it. If he cheated on past girlfriends and had questionable relationships before, then I might be concerned. The fact is, though, that if you don't have any evidence of him doing anything wrong then I wouldn't worry about it. Thinking about it will only make you stressed out and make problems in your relationship. Don't worry unless you have a reason to.
2006-08-16 14:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five days is a whole lot, do you ever wonder how he would feel if it was the other way around?
Always give him the benefit of the doubt. We are all born with that cheating gene. If you suspect something then ask him and if after that you still suspect something, hire a P.I. They are expensive but worth it.
Do be sure that you have a gut suspicion. Follow your gutt, it will never deceive you.
Good Luck.
2006-08-16 14:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by lovely butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you trust him? If the answer is yes don't worry about it. There are honest men as well as women. I would rather be naive then paranoid. If someone is accused in a relationship enough they start feeling they might as well if they are going to be accused of it anyway.
2006-08-16 14:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Len 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long the trip is. All men are disgusting I believe. I used to have more faith in men, but you should hear the horrible stories of what the married, engaged, and dating men that are stationed over in Iraq do. My brother is serving there and he tells me that no man there is faithful.
2006-08-16 14:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by foxxyy44u 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well the reason behind you asking such a question is clear that you dont trust your husband,or else you would nevre think about such a thing ever!!
trsut is the foundation of every relationship...if this starts shaking,you have a warning....so just go and talk to him about this,tell him what you feel if you really and strongly feel so....or else just dont let such issues bother you and your happy married life!!
2006-08-16 14:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you ask this question has he ever cheated on you before why are you so cautions about this trip? and your right you may never know so why sweat it if something did happen and it comes out deal with it then for now you stop tripping
2006-08-16 14:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋