OK .. i wrote before this story i had answers but still i dont know what to do ??? i want my bf back to me .. we broke up a mounth ago we were in love so much everything was very ok , then he decides to tell me that he loves me soo much but he cant marry me coz he doesnt have a work yet , he s too young (21 years old and so iam ) and that s better 4 us to end it now !! i agreed wit him but that was so painful for me so a friend of mine called him and told him that she loves u and u do too so dont loose her ... he told her that he loves me alot and lost a very special thing but he he cant come back coz he doesnt want to hurt me and himself .. he doesnt know that i know that she talked to him , he called me after that to say hi and how s things are going with me .. iam still thinking of hi i want him back again .. what can i do shell i talk to him and tell him ? iam afraid to tell me as he told my friend ... or what to do , iam so depressed ? ( sorry if there s mistakes iam a foringer)
2006-08-16 06:38:51 · 15 answers · asked by magic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
be patient... let him know your feelings, but don't crowd him or pester him too much. Time will tell the truth of both of your feelings... trust your heart and belive things will work out for the best.
2006-08-16 06:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Greggath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 21 and having a friend talk to him but you were very much in love???? Something doesn't sound right with your story....also his reason for breaking up with you doesn't sound right either if he was in love with you....maybe he's just trying to be nice and let you down easy....in any event you should realize that this situation is out of your control and just because you'de like him back doesn't mean it's going to happen...now please stop writing the same story over and over....find yourself another boyfriend to cling on to and move on.
PS: Just because you are a "foringer" (yeah right) doesn't mean you can't hit the spell check button.
2006-08-16 06:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a person worth waiting for. Maybe you can suggest you see each other once in awhile, not too seriously. 21 is pretty young to get married these days. Maybe if you cool it for a few years, he will find a job and be ready for marriage.
2006-08-16 06:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there
it seems this is your first? well it is always that why if you guys connect...but to be sincere there is nothing wrong to tell him what you exactly feel for him. if he has left you because of your age thing(nothing else attached to that)then that is immaterial. let him know you are matured enough to take whats coming in the relationship...and literalluy pour out your heart. surely he will agree to the continuation of the relationship.
take heart, it not the end of the world, ok?
good luck.
2006-08-16 06:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by maxndianaefo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but i think he's just not that into you anymore and he used any excuse just to break up. I think he probably still has feelings for you, but not real love. Anyway, if it is real love, he'll find his way back to you. If it isn't, there's isn't anything you can do to bring him back. Grieve your loss and try to move on. Oh yeah, and less contact you have with him the better!
2006-08-16 07:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him. If he really has feelings for you then you need to talk. Tell him that your friend told you what he said and ask him about it. Tell him up front how you feel about him and make sure he knows that you want the truth. Don't make him feel guilty if he says that he doesn't want to be with you. You want the truth. Right?
2006-08-16 06:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if there is more to this story - as Paul Harvey might say. Just get over it and move on. Life has a way of working out - and you don't have to manipulate it to your "side"
2006-08-16 06:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be open with him. Don't send your friends to tell him what you feel. you do it ,no matter how hard it is to have the words come out of your mouth, because it will, and just because you guys are engaged dose not mean that you have to jump to marriage right way. be OPEN. once you do that you will see where he is coming from. you will find out if its fear or a case of him him not wanting to be with u
2006-08-16 06:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please read: " book
There is a similar situation about you in there.
The auther said. if he wants to marry you he will. Guys are really cowards about saying what they feel because they dont want to hurt the girl so its either they lie or dissappear.
I guy will always get what he wants... maybe he is not that really into you.
2006-08-16 06:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a lame excuse to me. you should try to break off all communication with him so that it gives your heart time to heal. time is the only thing that will help you. take care of yourself
2006-08-16 06:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋