What is with all of the divorce?

Question

Why are so many people getting divorced?? Isn't anyone actually in love when they marry anymore? I know I sound old fashioned, but I am only 26.

Just so you all know, I am married myself!

Answer 1

Because they are fairly good at selecting a partner but inept at selecting a lifelong partner. Count me as one of them. I married for the wrong reasons although nobody could have convinced me that I was at the time. I divorced to marry the person I should have to begin with.

People marry for love, but not the kind that will endure a lifetime.

Answer 2

There are lots of reasons for divorce. Sometimes, yes, it just doesn't work out. Other times people just rush into it or think they have to get married or break up so they get married and they don't really want to. In my experience i found that the first year or two is really rough and if you can get through that together you'll be ok. Some people choose to not try to work it out and take the easy way out, divorce.

Answer 3

Well lets see..I am 28 and I have been married for eight years and I am going through a divorce now. Yeah I was in love with my husband when we got married, and had kids but men tend to change after kids are born or atleast mine did. Plus if you stay in a marriage just for the kids that is a very unhealthy environment for them to be in because of all the tension. Plus its not just that people divorce to go and get married to get divorced again, sometimes it just doesn't work out and people learn from their mistakes.

Well I wish you the best of luck in your marriage and hope you and your husband well.

Answer 4

Pumpkin, There was a day when you married it was for richer, for poorer, for better and for worst, in sickness and in health. Blah,blah,blah.
Part of me believes this was a great idea at one time. You had to work through your problems. Death til you part thing. I believe times in a way were simpler then. Less temptation, less stressful lives (Business wise), more family time and family oriented lifestyle.
And yet my great grand mother divorced her husband he was abusive, molesting and hunting the children. Kudos, to her it was unheard of at the time.
That was the other flaw in the good old days. Your husband could smack you around. You could beat your children. You were stuck no matter how bad things were, no matter how miserable. Divorcing was to bring shame to yourself and family.
I do wish there were parts that still existed. i do believe in marrying the one you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. But now a days things change in an instant.
Some get married for a visa, some to get out of paying child support, for someones money, security, forced marriages, because of pregnancy.
Not a pretty picture, yet I still believe. Your not old fashioned just hopeful.Keep it up

Answer 5

I'm 28, married 1 year, and I agree with you. Divorce is an awful thing and it seems to happen all the time.

Answer 6

i think people get divorced because people are not willing to settle for less than what they want and the person changes after marriage.In the old days you stayed married no matter what now people change and try to be someone else as soon as they get that ring and the other person bails because that is not what they signed up for.

Answer 7

I was married for 17 yrs and I thiught it was forever He decided he would rather cheat. People grow apart and move in different directions They choose not to honor the other person just them selves.That is my reason why I didn't want to live witha person I couldn't trust and I didn't want my girls to think it was ok for someone to treat you like that

Answer 8

I am 25 and divorced. Sometimes things just don't work out. Don't judge unless you've been there. Marriage is hard. You'll see one day when you get married.

Answer 9

yes there in love when they marry but it just seem to me that men that are marryied cheat when ever they get the chance so why should the women put up with that.

Answer 10

I truly wish i was still with my hubby Well ex now..But I cant be with someone who keeps cheating on me and we fight all the damn time right...So why you ask because we rather move on and look for the right one then to live unhappy...