I am 27 yrs old and ready to start a family with my husband. I also go to college full time working to get in the nursing program. The program is extremly hard to get into and my husband and friends want me to wait until I am all the way finished. I am just afraid that while I am waiting to be accepted into the program that I will miss out on the blessings of having childern, or be too old by the time I finish with school. Any Advice?
2006-08-16 06:35:08 · 9 answers · asked by And the Correct Answer is . . . 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well I guess you will have to weigh out what is more important. Having a child will make your life more work... and if you have a goal in mind.... also at 27 you are not too old for children nor are you close enough to worry about that.
2006-08-16 06:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing that you are 27, if you want a family you probably should start it pretty soon. But it also seems like having a career in nursing is also a priority for you. Once you get into school will you be too busy to take care of your kids if you have them first? And once you finish school will your career be more important? Or will you end up wanting to stay at home with them anyway. Do you think you can balance a family and going to school or a family and a career better? Both are more than full-time jobs. It may be easier to wait until school is finished to start a family, since it's a lot easier to take time off work then it is to take time off from school. I guess it all really depends on how long you expect it take to get into the nursing program, whether it will be only a year or like five years. Seems like you have some hard choices ahead of you. From my own experience, since I too would like to go back and finish my nursing schooling, I chose to have kids first. But I started having kids when I was 20 and plan to be done by 30. But I'm putting off going back to school and having my career until my youngest goes into school, and for now I'm a stay-at-home mom.
2006-08-16 07:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course wait. I'm assuming you have a very well established relationship with your husband, where the two of you have enjoyed your married life together, he makes decent money, you both go on vacations together and most importantly completely enjoy your lives together.
I know how nursing programs go, and trust me with a child, especially a baby, it will put alot of strain on your marriage. I'm speaking from nothing but experience on this one. You will never miss out on having kids. Besides you are only 27, still fairly young. My sister in-law had her first baby at 30. But she was already established in her career. Key word there, established, in her career. If I were you, I say wait until you are finished with your schooling and are at the very least established in your career. Get the education stuff out of the way, dont put any extra stress on your marriage. Trust me on this. To not wait could adversley affect your relationship, which is more important than your desire to start a family.
2006-08-16 07:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by jeff the drunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel that you are ready? When I settle down and have kids, I want to spend every moment with them while they are newborns. I don't want anything to be in the way. Have a child is a full time job and if your anything like me you don't want to miss any part of them growing from a newborn to a toddler. So I would wait until school was over so I could take my time and do everything right. Besides you wont be to old to have kids, your only 27. There are 40 something year olds having kids.
2006-08-16 06:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by aaliyahh1213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 and couldn't imagine having kids and going to school. Wait until you graduate and start your career or you might have a hard time finishing school once you have a child to take care of. The income will help nicely as well once you have a job.
2006-08-16 06:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is definetely a hard one I will be in your position in a few years
Having children while you are in college is probably not the best thing to do. If you think you can get time off after you get
accepted into the nursing program to go on maternity leave I would try and do that. Being a nurse/doctor/etc. and trying to
have kids is a hard thing to do.
Just do what is best for your future, your husband, and your kids.
2006-08-16 06:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, please wait. Caring for children is / should be a full commitment of self, even when it cannot be a full-time job. I watched my husband in school, and nearly lost him due to the stress of the program. Adding pregnancy and/or newborn child(ren) to that mix would just be disastrous, I think. You are still quite young and will have many years ahead of you to have those children. Give them the full attention they deserve -- after you graduate. Thanks for listening!! And good luck.
2006-08-16 06:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you ask all of your friends when you should get pregnant it should be between you and yyour hubby, if you have to take a poll from your friends before making a major descision then you are not ready for kids
2006-08-16 06:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well only you know your situation BUT if I were in your situation I'd finish college first. JMO though
2006-08-16 06:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by mamabens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋