Is it just me or are people afraid of marriage?

Question

Is our society giving us the idea that couples can just live together without the worry of marriage? My mother is asking me why my bother and sister don't want to get married to their significant other because they have been with them for over 5 years. And are both over the age of 25......What should I tell my mother.....

By the way i'm 19 myself so I wouldn't know anything about marriage

Answer 1

You should tell her exactly why you aren't married yet. The truth is always best and easiest to explain. She doesn't realize that times are different and people don't rush into marriages anymore the way they used to.

Answer 2

Some people want to "Make sure there the ONE" or there are sometimes financial reasons...like disability income,children from previous relationships...just alot of reasons.But in these days marriage to some people is just "A PIECE OF PAPER" but the definition of marriage to me a life long partnership with that one person,a commitment and promise of an undying LOVE for that person.You know now people go through drive Thur services to get married,and then they get in a argument or disagreement and drive by and get divorced..I don't know your bother and sister's situation,but some people you love but they just aren't meant for marriage for different reasons. Maybe there are things that happen behind close doors you or your mother have no idea about.So If I were you I would just tell your mom that give them some more time and see what happens,you don't want them to get married if next year they are divorcing..

Answer 3

People are kind of afraid of marriage. Marriage itself, no longer represents what it used to... a life long union between two people. Now, it's a a party, a ring and a piece of paper. There are no more mechanisms in Western soceity to keep marriages together. I suppose that's a good thing since who wants to be stuck in an unhappy marriage.

I do think that people are taking a more cautious approach. The unmarried people that I've met do take things slow since they only want to get married once.

If you're brother and sister are in relationship for more than 5 years, great for them, their relationships have lasted longer than most marriages. Any your mother should not be married, it's better to be in a relationship for the right reasons than in a marriage for the wrong ones.

Answer 4

I guess it is hard to answer a parent when you are only 25. I am older and have been living with my boyfriend for 6 years I have no desire to marry. I like the way things are. I am sure we are together because we want to be and there are no strings holding us. If you are buying major purchases together make sure both your names are on them. Keep separate bank accounts and keep track of the financial situation. I love my BF as deeply and as committed as any marriage. I know I have been married for 25 years before this and what a mess when i got a divorce. If you have children or plan on children then it is better to be married. This is just my opinion.

Answer 5

I don't think marriage is so important now. I mean even if they do get married they can just as easily get divorced so the sentimental value of marriage is no more.

Answer 6

married life is very serious thing where u made vows and i think u have to be real sure of what u doing before go ahead do it and then a month after u sorry

Answer 7

People are afraid. We have mtv, pop culture & idiots like Paris Hilton for whom we can thank because of this. It is in our nature to destroy ourselves, and this is a small part of it.

Answer 8

Tell her to mind her own business. Quit sticking her nose in her grown children's life affairs.